(Closed) Are you having dress anxiety?

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

what does it look like? do you have pictures? was there anything you were hesitant about when you bought it?

Post # 5
523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I may be new here, but what drew you to the dress in the first place?

 How did you feel in the dress and why did you pick that particular one? 

 If you answer those with about 90% of what the fabulous women on this board would say. I would say you picked the right dress. I know seamstresses that will do everything in their power to make sure the dress looks exactly the way you want it to in your dreams. 

 I would just try to calm down and remember why you picked it out in the first place and envision your significant other tearing up at the end of that aisle. You know they will and that is because you will be the most stunning bride there is.  🙂

Post # 6
3331 posts
Sugar bee

I think it’s totally natural to be anxious about making the right dress decision and alterations. I know I had so many freakouts about my dress–especially because it was about 2 sizes too big when it came in.  I ordered my dress in September, and spent the next couple of months looking in magazines, wondering if I had made the right choice.  FWIW, when my dress finally came in and I tried it on (even though it was 2 sizes too big), I still loved it! 

I think it’s totally normal to be stressed–the dress is a big deal.  However, if you had a seamstress you trust, I’m sure it’s going to look perfect!

Post # 7
1356 posts
Bumble bee

I agree – I think it is completely normal to have dress anxiety (or I hope it is at least!!) It is hard to trust your judgment after you see all the other dresses out there!

I am a bit like you – mine wasn’t slim A-line or trumpet enough for me, so my seamstress took it in A LOT on the sides. Now I love it! Maybe yours could do this too?

And for what it’s worth, I think your dress is beautiful!

Post # 8
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House

I think your dress looks great on you!  It does look like it would be possible to take in the skirt to make it a trumpet or slim a-line.  Have you talked to your seamstress about doing this?  Are you uneasy with your seamstress or the look of the dress?  You could always find another seamstress if you don’t feel comfortable with the alterations.

I agree that dress anxiety is normal.  Although with me, I had dress anxiety and went and bought another dress, so maybe I’m not a good example. 🙂  For what it’s worth, if your only dislike is the skirt, I think you’ll be able to have it altered.  I love the sweetheart neckline and beading on the top.  Good luck!

Post # 9
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

It’s totally normal to stress out about your dress choice. Especially when you don’t see it for awhile. I was stressing about getting a short dress and kept thinking maybe I should have tried on more long dresses. I deliberately tried not to look at dresses (except here on weddingbee!) so I would have a total dress meltdown. When my dress came in and I had my first fitting, I remembered how much I loved my dress.

Did you share any of your concerns with your seamstress? If not, can you go back in and talk to her-maybe she can help you with you concerns. Maybe if she explains exactly what she is going to do, you’ll be able to see her vision.

Post # 10
12 posts

I have the same dress and am getting married in 11 days. When the dress first came in and I tried it on all I could think was "what was I thinking." I had to order it two sizes bigger up top to fit my hips. Once I went to the first fitting and the seamstress showed me what the dress was supposed to look like I was happy again. I am having the train cut off, but leaving everything else the same. I am also using hair and shoes to make the "traditional" dress a little less so. You may want to have the seamstress play with pins and show you what it would look like to take in the skirt. I’m sure they can make this dress a slimmer A-line (if you don’t have the lower body size I have).

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