(Closed) Are you having your fiance’s sister(s) be a bridesmaid even if you’re not close?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 92
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@yassim:This is also my case. My precious sister in law(28, no boyfriend) was invited to be my bridesmaid (because of my courtesy). One week before the wedding party she  was repeatedly  teasing me and when i finally told her what i had noticed, she had a tantrum. She wasn’t of any help to me, one of the few things i asked to do was done wrong- because their mother said so.I asked her to buy the icecream for the party but instead she brought the icecream to her parents’ house and eat it with their guests.I hadnt the car of my fiance at my disposal during the wedding day but she did. After the party,my mother in law who imposed me to let her decide the guests’ places at the tables complaint her and her husband  hadn’t a place where to stay.My relationship with my husband’s family was good before the wedding but it deteriorated since then. nad got even worse after my sister in law and my father in law didnt show up at my father’s funeral.After all happened, I’d do whatever I like during MY DAY and i wouldnt try to please everybody compromising my happiness.

Post # 93
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Mr. Awesome’s sister and I were not close, outside of bowling and a BBQ or two we had never hung out. When it came time to pick the ladies he suggested she be a maid. I have to say that I am SO glad I agreed. She and I have grown closer and to be honest, she has been far more supportive than the other 4. (In Maid/Matron of Honor defense, she is planning a whirlwind wedding of her own) She even offered to split the bill for a wedding planner as her gift to us!

 

Anywho, I think this is one of those things that may or may not work and totally depends on the persons involved! 😉

Post # 94
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am more worried about my own sister. I was only planning on having my three friends, but then one of FI’s sisters commented that she will have to buy a strapless bra for the dress. I hadn’t planned on her being a bridesmaid. And then my sister got upset because “usually sisters are bridesmaids” (in a snarky tone). I am really close with FI’s oldest sister so I have my three friends as Maid/Matron of Honor and 2 BM’s, and the sisters are honorary, meaning they won’t walk down the aisle, but they will wear the dresses, and help with planning if they want to.

My sister has been the one with drama because she is jealous and going through her own problems in life. She has made some really hurtful comments about EVERYTHING I have planned, even about my ring. But that’s for another post.

Post # 95
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am. Strictly because I hate drama.

Post # 96
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

my fiance is 17yrs old than me so his sibilings are older too…what i did was ask his nieces, who are my age, if their kids can be in the wedding. everyone loves to see their kids all dressed up and that way i didn’t have to deal with his side of the family feeling left out. so all the lil people in the wedding are from his side

Post # 97
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@jouissance: i found a spot for most of the kids in his family.  my sister is a diva and she wears that title with honor and i didn’t want her to unintentionally hurt anyones feelings on his side of the family.   everyone was excited about their kid being in the wedding

Post # 98
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m not close with my FI’s Sister or SIL but I am having them in the wedding.  We just don’t “click” like I would want.  I doubt they will give us any problems though.  The most I’ll have to deal with is them not understanding some choices I make for the big day.  My biggest problem is my own sister.  

Post # 99
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

I had Mr. Jaguar’s brother as a groomsman in our wedding, and Mr. Jaguar had MY brother as a groomsman too. They were our only siblings, and we would’ve have had it any other way. 

Post # 100
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Sugar bee

Mr. CBs sister is a bridesmaid and my brother is a groomsman. We have six attendants each, it wasn’t as if there wasn’t room for an extra family member. It is a nice way to blend the families and include everyone. Unless your SIL is not a very nice person, and then in that case I say….. RUN haha.

Post # 101
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am not asking my future SILs.  My fiance has 3 brothers and 4 sisters and I have 2 brothers.  We wanted a smaller bridal party (4 on each side) so it was impractical to include all of them as BMs and Groomsmen.  We will include his sisters in other ways as much as we can and we are going to ask my brothers to be ushers.  We are also asking all their children to be ring bearers and flower girls.  I would rather have 8 flower girls then 8 BMs. 

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