- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
Mr. Awesome’s sister and I were not close, outside of bowling and a BBQ or two we had never hung out. When it came time to pick the ladies he suggested she be a maid. I have to say that I am SO glad I agreed. She and I have grown closer and to be honest, she has been far more supportive than the other 4. (In Maid/Matron of Honor defense, she is planning a whirlwind wedding of her own) She even offered to split the bill for a wedding planner as her gift to us!
Anywho, I think this is one of those things that may or may not work and totally depends on the persons involved! 😉
I am more worried about my own sister. I was only planning on having my three friends, but then one of FI’s sisters commented that she will have to buy a strapless bra for the dress. I hadn’t planned on her being a bridesmaid. And then my sister got upset because “usually sisters are bridesmaids” (in a snarky tone). I am really close with FI’s oldest sister so I have my three friends as Maid/Matron of Honor and 2 BM’s, and the sisters are honorary, meaning they won’t walk down the aisle, but they will wear the dresses, and help with planning if they want to.
My sister has been the one with drama because she is jealous and going through her own problems in life. She has made some really hurtful comments about EVERYTHING I have planned, even about my ring. But that’s for another post.
I am. Strictly because I hate drama.
my fiance is 17yrs old than me so his sibilings are older too…what i did was ask his nieces, who are my age, if their kids can be in the wedding. everyone loves to see their kids all dressed up and that way i didn’t have to deal with his side of the family feeling left out. so all the lil people in the wedding are from his side
I’m not close with my FI’s Sister or SIL but I am having them in the wedding. We just don’t “click” like I would want. I doubt they will give us any problems though. The most I’ll have to deal with is them not understanding some choices I make for the big day. My biggest problem is my own sister.
I had Mr. Jaguar’s brother as a groomsman in our wedding, and Mr. Jaguar had MY brother as a groomsman too. They were our only siblings, and we would’ve have had it any other way.
Mr. CBs sister is a bridesmaid and my brother is a groomsman. We have six attendants each, it wasn’t as if there wasn’t room for an extra family member. It is a nice way to blend the families and include everyone. Unless your SIL is not a very nice person, and then in that case I say….. RUN haha.
I am not asking my future SILs. My fiance has 3 brothers and 4 sisters and I have 2 brothers. We wanted a smaller bridal party (4 on each side) so it was impractical to include all of them as BMs and Groomsmen. We will include his sisters in other ways as much as we can and we are going to ask my brothers to be ushers. We are also asking all their children to be ring bearers and flower girls. I would rather have 8 flower girls then 8 BMs.
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