(Closed) Are you including your bridesmaids in dress picking

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I found mine at Alfred Angelo. I made sure all of the maids generally liked the dresses before I finalized it. I didn’t want them wearing something they would hate, and miraculously all SIX of them liked the dress I picked. 😀 or they were lying to me… haha but I think they genuinely liked the dresses.

Post # 5
6392 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would definitely include them at least a bit! I agree that it would be really hard to coordinate a day for all four girls to come in, but they should feel like they had a bit of input. Maybe ask them what sort of styles they like the most and if straps are important to them. You don’t have to follow exactly what they say (since they won’t really know if they’re the majority or not) but that way you can try to respect if they really do look bad in a certain style, etc. 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 6
11051 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@missmarchmommy: One of mine tried on the dresses we ended up having, once when shopping for my dress, after that I knew that was the dress I wanted them to have. I arranged for them to to all try it on but our venue changed the tasting event to the same date so had to cancel and ended up just ordering them and they text me their measurements.

Post # 8
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I included my girls. I arranged our dress hunt for over Christmas break, when they all would be in my area.  I was surprised how bad a few of the dresses looked on some of them- the dress looked completely different online (i used David’s Bridal’s newest line). 

Post # 9
284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Try Alfred Angelo – they have a larger dress and color selection then David’s Bridal. Also, I would maybe pick a few styles you like and email the links to the girls just to get their input and make sure they don’t hate any of the styles, but make the final selection yourself. If some wants straps, some don’t etc, I would leave it up to them to make small ok’ed changes to the dresses – this might avoid any drama and keep them all (and you!) happy.

(Side note: Another line that is carried Nation-wide and has good selection/prices is After Six).

Post # 10
2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I found a dress online and showed all my bridesmaids and they all loved it. Their jewelry I am going to give to them as their gifts. Their shoes I don’t really care about, they just have to be silver.

I think you should let them have some sort of input. Maybe you could pick the dresses, accessories etc and just show it to them and see what they think. Hopefully you can all come to some sort of an agreement.

Post # 11
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@missmarchmommy: I did, too, and it somehow was flattering to all of the different shapes. I even tried it on and liked it lol


What do you mean by avoid tackiness? Is it that you want them all in different dresses?

Post # 14
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I went to the store to try on Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses because I didn’t want to make my maids wear something I wouldn’t wear myself. I sent them 5 options to have them vote and picked the majority leader in the majority color.

Post # 15
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My sister is my maid of honor. I have a super busy job and I live about an hour away from her and one of the other bridesmaids, and about 2 hours from my other bridesmaid. The one that lives near my sister just had a baby, so she certainly has other things on her mind. My job is super busy, so I asked my sister to go pick out whatever shemliked, and that would be what the girls wear. Ineven told her she can pick the dress in whatever color she liked and looked nice on her, and that would be my color for the wedding. All 3 of my girls have the same super pale, almost translucent skin, the same skin tone that I have, so I figure it should be ok. Some people think I’m nuts, but I trust my sisters judgement, and I don’t care that much about wedding color either, I would rather they like the color they are wearing. She ended up picking out a gorgeous dress, so I can’t complain.

Of course, I asked the other 2, and they were fine with letting my sister pick the dress I was in both their weddings, and wore whatever they wanted, so they are now doing the same for me.

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