(Closed) Are you #%^*ing kidding me?!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yeah… I think he needs to realize that you’re now in this together after the engagement. And if this upsets you so much, he either needs to really sit you down to talk about it, or realize it’s not a good can of worms to get into it (and not even worth it since he hasn’t kept in contact). You’re about to be his wife.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Why not just let him handle his own friendship? It doesn’t seem to impacting you anyway.

Post # 5
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662 posts
Busy bee

I would say the issue is that she refuses to put you on the card.  I feel almost like she is excluding you on purpose.

Post # 6
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7673 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m glad you’re asking about Fiance, because what Emily does or thinks is none of your concern. Fiance needs to wake up: the friendship is not what it was, it is dying a natural death. It’s often hard to maintain opposite sex friendships, because the dynamics change so much when you get partners. Emily has realised this, Fiance needs to as well.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@1stRosie:  She’s probably not addressing cards to you because she has never met you.

It’s your fiances friendship and other than the card thing it doesn’t seem to really affect you, so let him handle it with her if he is that unhappy with how she treats him.  

Why exactly would any of this make you livid is beyond me. It may be slightly annoying at best.

Post # 9
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8726 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@msfahrenheit:  +1

She obviously doesn’t like you but clearly that is mutual.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i think you need to let him come to the realization on his own that the friendship is over (or at least not the same).

i’ve been through that. i had a best friend for all of my childhood. when we were in college, we would make plans and she would cancel last minute, or she would stand me up and not give an explanation later, or i would find out from new facebook pictures that she had been spend a weekend right in my city and didn’t even call or text me.

i took that treatment for years before i finally came to the realization that it was over. my friend who i’d met in college was very supportive and she held me as i cried. she told me that she watched me go through that for a long time and she was happy that i finally freed myself, but knew she had to let me do it myself.

 

Post # 13
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11270 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@1stRosie:  imo, she sounds like a bitch.  she knows exactly what she’s doing.  she excluded you from that card for a reason.  she’s threatened by you.  did she ever date your fi or have any feelings other than platonic?

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@1stRosie: ohh nevermind then I didn’t get that from your original post. Well in that case, is your name not on the envelope or not on the inside of the card?  We get cards here sometime only addressed to one of us, but both of our names are inside the card.  Even if not, we still assume it is intended for both of us. Not something to waste too much energy being upset about.  She might just not like you for whatever reason – at least you don’t have to see her often.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Just playing Devil’s Advocate, my Grandma loves my Fiance but only addressed the card to me…..a few friends did the same thing. I do agree that it’s rude, but perhaps not intentional!

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