(Closed) Are you inviting co-workers to your wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are you inviting co-workers?
    Yes all of them!! : (16 votes)
    11 %
    No, none of them!! : (40 votes)
    29 %
    Just a select few! : (84 votes)
    60 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    I invited them all, but “all” meant 4 people added to my guest list because I work in a tiny office.

     

    If you’re not close with all of your co workers I don’t think it’s a problem to only invite the ones that you are close with.  What if one of those you weren’t close with quit, was fired or got a new job — would you want them at your wedding still?  Because things could change between now and September!

    Post # 4
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    124 posts
    Blushing bee

    I am planning on inviting all of them, but that is 4 people plus their SO’s.  I work in a small lab, lol!

    Post # 5
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    2966 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @mchitt329:  I work in a huge office, but my department has about 12 people. 

    I invited 4 coworkers and their +1s. 

    Post # 6
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    5191 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Nah, none of them even congratulated me on my engagement so screw ’em. They’re all single and bitter.

    Post # 7
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    272 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I work in a very small office with an in office team and a field team. I will probably invite most of the in office team. I’ll invite my boss, too – although, I believe she will have retired several months before the wedding.

    Post # 8
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    348 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m only inviting one (work in an office of 11). But this one is a very close friend first and a co-worker second to me.  I generally keep my personal life separate from my office; but despite this, almost everyone at work has asked me if I was inviting them… Which was always awkward to tell them no. Inviting those from work would completely change the atmosphere and comfort level of my wedding for me — obviously I don’t want that!

    Post # 9
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    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I am inviting 4 people from work. It is very hush hush, i dont want anyone to feel bad. I am pretty close to these girls and trust they wont be blabbin about being invited.

    Post # 10
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    238 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My bosses are on our B list.  We haven’t decided if we’re going to invite them, because I might quit my job before we get married.

    Post # 11
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    139 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    no, only because if i invite the 5 people i like then i would end up having to invite 10 or more (as to not offend or cause drama) and it’s just not in my budget. while i’m friendly with my co-workers they arent my true friends or family. i only want to be surrounded by true friends and family on my wedding day 🙂

    Post # 12
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    106 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think it depends on the company and how close you are to them.   My companyis very small and  consists of 9 people; I maybe talk to and are “close” to 4 of them and have only been here a year.   I felt like if I only invited those 4 it would make the others feel left out and inviting everyone (for personal and financial reasons) was not an option so we elected to invite no one.   The people who I would have invited completely understand that with my huge family (skimmed the friends list including wedding party to about 20 with guests), I am still planning on about 175 guests and that we just had to have a cut off at one point.   Congrats and good luck with your decision!

    Post # 13
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    251 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @FutureMrsLAL:  +1 why do people ask if they’re invited? Don’t you feel awkward if I tell you no? All my coworkers did that too! Ugh, hate that!

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @SoontobeMrsAM:  I’m kind of in the same boat. I work on a team of about 30 people, but I am definitely closer to some than others. We’re having a small wedding so inviting all of them is really not an option. I am inviting those that I talk to regularly. I feel really bad about not inviting everyone, but one of my coworkers assured me that no one on the team ever invites everyone to events (kids’ graduations, parties, weddings, etc) because there are so many people on the team, not to mention the other 200 people in my building that we all know, too! I still feel bad, but I guess they’ll be able to understand.

    I guess I feel guilty mainly because the people at my work throw giant baby/wedding showers. Depending on who its for, sometimes the entire building will show up (over 200 people!) and registries are almost always taken care of in their entirety! I feel terrible accepting a gift from someone at the shower, yet not inviting them to the wedding. Sigh.

    Post # 15
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    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Only invite the ones you feel like you’d still want to talk to/remember in several years. My situation is a little easier – I work at a large place, but the office where I work only has 4 other people – one person is my boss and very close to me and my mother (we go to ball games and shopping together often), another person is making our cake, another person is doing the day-of coordination for me, and that only leaves one other person, so I considered it only polite to invite her as well. She’s quite nice anyway 🙂

    As long as you can get the invitations to them discreetly, I don’t see a problem with not inviting all of them. (Which is what my fiance had to do at his work.)

    Post # 16
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    5001 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I said all, but I only work with 6 people! 

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