(Closed) Are you inviting co-workers to your wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are you inviting co-workers?

    Yes all of them!!

    No, none of them!!

    Just a select few!

  • Post # 32
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    My Fiance and I actually met at work, so we know a lot of the same people. I don’t work there anymore and neither do most of the people we’re inviting, but one of my bridesmaids, one of his groomsmen, and one of his groomsmaids are all people we’ve worked with. We’re also inviting a couple of guests we used to work with as well. I’m not inviting any of my current coworkers though.

    Post # 33
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 1997

    @SoontobeMrsAM: 

    Inviting some but not all coworkers in a smallish office will have ramifications. 

    Your true feelings for each coworker will become readily apparent based on who gets an invitation and who doesn’t. 

    It’s a hierachy.  Not being included is not a problem for those whom regard you equally and have no expectation. However it’s quite a different story for a coworker who mistakingly believed you regarded them “higher” than you do.  It’s a rejection. People understand expense however they will still struggle with the fact that you invited “Sue” in the other room, but not them. Will they move on and eventually get over it? Sure but it will affect their feelings for you/future interactions.

    Have you considered posting a wedding notice on the bulletin board a few days before the wedding? Most people won’t go and will prevent hurt feelings.

    Post # 34
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @SoontobeMrsAM:  I work in a office of 26 people, all of which I’ve know for the past 6 years. I am only inviting 3 co-workers who I see outside of the office.

    Post # 35
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Well I did have most of my coworkers on the guest list, but I just got switched to a new store, so now I’m back at square one.

    Post # 36
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I work with 6 people and 2 bosses and Fiance  works with  1  person and  1 boss.  we are inviting all of them  plus SOs  but no children.  In my office,  5 of us have worked together for over 6  years.  Three  others just joined our office 6 months ago and I feel obligated to invite them because it might cause some division  and awkwardness in the office, so we are. 

    Post # 37
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We decided on a rule of “If we spend time with them outside of work, they’re invited” which helped us decide who to invite. My husband and I work for the same organisation and we both organise a lot of social activities outside of work, so basically the regular people that came to those events got an invite. Anyone that chose not to come to those events didn’t seem to have any major interest in spending time outside of work with people anyway, so we didn’t really feel the need to invite them to the wedding!

    Post # 38
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    807 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I’m inviting one coworkers but that’s only because he was my friend before he started working for the same company.

    Post # 39
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We invited the people we talk to/hang out with a lot, and see outside of work too. As far as I know, there weren’t any real hurt feelings.. It’s pretty laid back where I work, and there’s so many people that I think anyone here would’ve thought it ridiculous to invite everyone. 

    Post # 40
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    1883 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I have a former co-worker as a bridesmaid and I am inviting 2 or 3 other former co-workers. My job is weird because I go around to different offices and so do they. We don’t really see or speak to each other. The other is a former co-worker fo my current job… Even if I was still at that job, I would not invite this one heifer because she did not invite me to her baby shower… She was hiding her pregnancy even though the majority of us knew about it… She is shady, so she can screw off. If i have a bridal shower she is not invited to that either, but the other girls I can’t invite to the wedding will be..

    Post # 41
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I am only inviting one coworker from my building.  We are both elementary teachers and are right next door to each other.  I’d say we have more of a friendship than just a working relationship.  I am not, however, inviting my whole team.  I like them and all but we are just not close like that.  I think we all know that that is apparent.  Also, my wedding is during the summer so no one will be the wiser.  I think it will be fine.  I did struggle over the decision for a while but ultimately decided I wanted her to be part of our day.

    Post # 42
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    Bee Keeper

    I work in a large store; my department alone consists of about 100 members of staff.

    I’m inviting about 10 to the evening reception; we all work the same shift in the week, and have a blast. I’ve asked them to keep it quiet though as I don’t want to offend anyone I’m not inviting.

    Post # 43
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m definitely inviting the ones I regularly spend time with outside of work. I’m undecided on my bosses.

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