(Closed) Are you inviting the Priest to your reception?

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
  • poll: Are you inviting the Priest to your reception?
    Yes, we don't know him well but we thought it was a good gesture : (64 votes)
    40 %
    Yes, he know us personally : (60 votes)
    37 %
    Maybe, Undecided : (14 votes)
    9 %
    No, we would have liked to, but we just couldn't add an extra guest : (4 votes)
    2 %
    No, we didn't feel we needed to : (17 votes)
    11 %
    Other, please explain below : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    From what I understand, you’re supposed to invite the priest to your reception. Ours doesn’t know us from a hole in the wall because we’re from out of state, so I doubt he’ll come, but we were told by FI’s parents that the priest would be offended if he wasn’t invited. They said normally the priest just stops by the cocktail hour, then he does a blessing before dinner is served, and he usually leaves.

    Post # 4
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    3166 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    he’s officiating his friend’s daughter’s wedding that evening so he wont be able to attend. otherwise, we would have invited him.

    Post # 5
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    528 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Our Parish Priest is marrying us so obviously we know him very well and he is a great guy aswell so we are 100% inviting him. Unfortunately though, as our wedding is on a Sunday he may well be too busy to come- but we’ve got our fingers crossed! I know it’s the ‘norm’ to invite the Priest who marries you, but I’m not sure with your situation where you don’t really know him. I probably would- if he doesn’t know you or your guests he probably wouldn’t stay for dinner.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Arg.  We don’t know the priest marrying us very well since he is a Catholic priest that will be marrying us outside the church we had to do some searching.  He is married too!  So he even said on his website that he expects his wife to be able to come too.  Unconventional all over the board!

    Post # 7
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    572 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We are inviting ours, yes, even though he doesn’t really know us.  

    Post # 8
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    5106 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Yes, and I’m sure he’ll come. A lot of the church’s parishioners will be at the reception and he loves to talk…. And our priest likes to have a few drinks ;o)

    Post # 9
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    3166 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @baletrina: wait wait wait… what? if he’s married then he is NOT a priest. if you’re expecting a MARRIED priest to be marrying you outside without dispensation, please know that it will not be a “catholic” wedding where you receive the sacrament. i hope this doesn’t come off as snarky, i’m just trying to be clear! -_-;

    Post # 11
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    528 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @elliestan: I’m not sure about in the U.S but here in the UK there are now some married Catholic Priests because the Vatican allowed Anglican Priests who are married and may even have children, to join the church should they so wish. My parish Priest tells me there’s a married Priest in a nearby town to me, which I find a bit weird but guess it just takes a bit of getting used to!

    Post # 12
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    1025 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @elliestan: It is definitely a good idea to make sure that he is a real priest, not a rent-a-priest. That being said, their are married Catholic priests. Eastern Rite priests (who are under the authority of Rome) can be married.  Here’s one example: http://remnantofremnant.blogspot.com/

    But, baletrina if you found him online…there’s a good chance he isn’t a priest in good standing with the Church. If that is something that is important to you, you might want to confirm with his diocese.

    Post # 13
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    441 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011 - St. Joseph's Parish, Seattle Tennis Club

    Yep, we’re inviting our priest, even though we don’t know him well

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @jedeve: yeah the website piece is what threw me into thinking he was a rent-a-priest!

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @elliestan:  He practiced in Mexico and met his wife there.  And like @FutureMrsMaher: said he explains the rule about Catholic priests getting married.  He is actually a friend of a friend’s priest(at her church, he’s in good standing with the diocese) and the ceremony will not be sanctioned by the church.  To me that is not an issue since Fiance and I are both non-practicing Catholics and I always wanted to get married outside.  It is the Future Mother-In-Law that is putting up the stink about us not getting married in a church and this is my way of “meeting halfway.” 😉  Believe me I have talked to many priests, including my cousin, deacons, consulted Vatican websites, etc.  I have to reassure my Fiance that our future children will be accepted by the church and will not go to Hell.  Headache!

    Post # 16
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    294 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We’re inviting both priests and the deacon who will be marrying us. One of the priests and the deacon we absolutely love!! The other priest is our Pastor and while he’s not necessarily a bad guy he’s kind of a pain, but he IS our “home” Pastor.

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