Post # 17
I was married by a married priest. Yes, he is a real priest–once a priest, always a priest. No, he does not have clerical duties (since he was married), although his wife has passed away so he could if he wanted to. We were not married in a church so it is not a valid Catholic wedding.
I sent him an invitation like any other guest. He stayed for cocktail hour and dinner.
Post # 18
Here’s a question… where do you seat him? My fiance and I are the only ones who even casually know our priest (our families live elsewhere). We are inviting him as a nice gesture, but if he accepts, next I’ll be worrying about where he should sit!
Post # 19
It seems like seating him at a table with either your parents or FI’s parents or both, depending on how your seating arrangement is, would be best. I know in my case, I will definitely seat him at my parents’ table because my dad is a deacon.
Post # 20
we did, but then again my husband uncle married us as well as a good friend that his parents sponsered through seminary.
we did our pre-marriage meetings with the deacon at our parish since my husbands uncle lives in OK. i invited him and his wife as well for taking their time to meet with us but they opted not to come.
i dont think its a rule or anything, but its kind to put the invite out there, he may not come anyway.
Post # 21
I think its a nice thing to do if your venue and budget have the space. We will invite him to the rehursal dinner of course as well as the reception.
Post # 22
Yes you should invite your priest.
We are inviting ours, and he will be sitting with my parents. Even if he wasn’t a family friend I think it is the polite thing to do. The most important part of the wedding day is when you become husband and wife and the priest is the one to do that – in my opinion that is the greatest gift you will get on your wedding day!
Post # 23
We didn’t have a head table. I sat him with our parents and us.
Post # 24
We were going to but we both forgot. Actually I thought DH was going to invite him, DH thought I was going to invite him. OOPS!
Post # 26
Well said ….
Yes you should invite your priest.We are inviting ours, and he will be sitting with my parents. Even if he wasn’t a family friend I think it is the polite thing to do. The most important part of the wedding day is when you become husband and wife and the priest is the one to do that – in my opinion that is the greatest gift you will get on your wedding day
Post # 27
Ours has a 4pm mass and then a 6pm mass in the village next to us after our wedding. We may invite him anyway, but he will probably only make it to the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 28
We are going to invite our Priest, and send him a formal invitation in the mail, even if he might not attend. He is the Pastor so he may be busy with other duties). We do not know him personally but he is our celebrant which in my eyes is so important.. the reason for the whole celebration.
Post # 29
Yes, but that’s because he is also a close friend of my FI’s.
Post # 30
Yes, we didn’t know him that well but it was a good gesture. And we see him now when we go to church so I felt I did the right thing. He ended up coming to the cocktail hour and then left. He had a great time!
Post # 31
We’re inviting the pastor (who is the pastor of the church I’m a member at) AND his wife. Of course, dont’ have to worry about that part with a catholic priest I guess.