Post # 1
OK, I have been back and forth on this for months, and now that it’s time to send out invites I need to decide: do I invite my boss?
On the one hand, I am about 99.9% sure she thinks I’m inviting her-she’s made comments here and there, most namely, one of my BMs was a former co-worker and a reference that helped me get the job I now have. My boss and her had a great convo when she called re my references and a few weeks ago my boss asked about her. I mentioned she was great, and was actually going to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, and my boss said “Oh! I can finally put a face to the voice!”. I dunno if she meant that as in she would be seeing photos, or meeting her at the wedding, although I’m inclined to think the latar. She also asks me about the wedding a lot…although this may just be being polite and friendly…we have a pretty close relationship, and I’m pretty open about things, so that is a possibility.
I don’t want to offend her, and I certainly don’t want to hurt her feelings, but honestly, I don’t want to invite her. She’s my boss, and I would feel really weird having here there. It would be one thing if we were having a big wedding, because then I probably wouldn’t even see her, but we’re having 60 people! I just feel like if I knew she was there I would be so much more gaurded,and I selfishly just don’t want to have to worry about it on my wedding day.
Fiance says to do whatever I want, but he thinks I should invite her. I am inviting one friend from work, and he thinks if my boss found out I invited someone else form work and not her it might make things awkward, etc. His logic is it’s only one person. I get that but ugh….it’s my BOSS.
Bah, what did you all do?
Post # 3
Don’t invite her if you don’t want to. There is no rule that says you have to invite your boss. You’re also having a small wedding. Have you ever hinted to her that you’re having a small affair? I think it’s rude to make statements assuming that she’s invited.
I invited my boss. I wasn’t crazy about it but his ‘gift’ to people getting married was 5 additional paid vacation days. So I only felt like I had to. If he didn’t give me those 5 days I wouldn’t have invited him. no doubt.
He left right after dinner. I think he didn’t want to drink too much and get out of hand. I said hi to him for a hot minute and then I never saw him again
Post # 4
I am inviting both my bosses. One of them is actually one of my bridesmaids! But I think it’s a total personal decision so you should do what feels right to you!
Post # 5
No way! I try not to mix work (especially bosses) with my personal life.
Post # 7
@MadameTussaud: Same here!! Plus my DH(ahhhhh first time using it!) used to work for my same company and despises my bosses anyways so it was an easy choice for me. PLUS I wanted to have fun and have some drinks, I didn’t want to worry about my bosses watching me!!
Post # 8
I am inviting my boss and co-workers. We are a small group in the department that work closely together and they are so great that I’m happy to invite them. But that’s because I wanted to… which it doesn’t sound like it’s that way in your case. So don’t invite them if you don’t actually want them to share the moment with you.
Post # 9
I will be inviting my boss. I’m inviting a couple other co-workers, and it’s a small-ish group, so I would feel bad not inviting him.
P.S. We have multiple work parties involving adult beverages, so I’m not concerned about them seeing me drink.
Post # 10
I’m inviting my boss, and my director. My boss is like my 2nd mother, I love her…she’s sometimes even BETTER than my mother, and that’s a whole nother story. So I guess i’m bias
Post # 11
I feel like I should add that I work in a department of three people…..so I actually am quite close with my boss.
I really don’t know why I am so hung up on this.
Post # 12
I’m inviting my boss…. I work for my dad haha.
Don’t invite anyone you don’t want to. Period.
Post # 13
@sara_tiara: I hear you. I work in a department of four people, 1 supervisor and 3 staff (including me). I think it will be awkward not to invite the boss, but I don’t really want to. Le sigh.
Post # 14
No.. because my wedding is 700+ miles away.. however he is invited to the in town reception
Post # 15
@sara_tiara: “Oh! I can finally put a face to the voice!”. BUMMER. She is totally and completely expecting an invite. Shit. I would, just because you’re so new and it may put a dent in an otherwise great working relationship in the near future. The only thing I fear is that she’ll think you guys are closer than you really are. And I can understand why you don’t want her there…it’s hard to cut loose and be super personal when there is someone from work staring at you. *shudder*
I am not inviting my boss but I am inviting a dear colleague. I don’t think the boss would go or care anyway.
Post # 16
Yes, I am inviting my bosses. One of them actually invited me to their wedding. I’m not really inviting many co-workers though I’m not that close with them, but since I work closely with my bosses I will invite them.