Post # 1
Hi Bees- Do you think that its rude to not extend an invite to your co-workers in the office. I mean, Im sorta on a budget here.. not trying to invite over 60 ppl. But it’ll feel sorta weird talking about my wedding for so long to all these folks who seem to be excited for me and always asking me “how’s the wedding planning going”? LOL What are your thoughts on this?
Post # 3
I’m inviting co-workers to my evening reception but not the ceremony or the meal (which are family and close friends only and still at 140 people).
Post # 4
@Kamazing: I’m in the same position as you and it’s especially tough because we’re a small office with only 10 people. I don’t think you should feel obliged to invite them just because you’ve been talking about wedding planning or they’ve been asking questions. How many people talk about their pregnancy at work? I wouldn’t feel slighted if I wasn’t invited to the birth! If there’s one or two people you’re close to, then yeah, invite them seperately.
@SpecialSundae: My Fiance is Scottish, from Fife-Tayport! He knows nothing about weddings thought and I’m curious how you invite someone to a reception but not the meal? In the US those two things kind of go hand-in-hand.
Post # 5
I am inviting co-workers to my at home reception but not to the actual destination wedding.
Post # 6
I am inviting my co-workers but I only have 12.
Post # 7
Nope, we’re not. We are trying to keep it under 50 people and the coworkers just didn’t make the cut.
Post # 8
I think it depends on how friendly you are with them in general. If you don’t hang out outside of work, I wouldn’t worry about it but if the other way around, I would probably invite those I’m closest to but perhaps be a little honest about it and pair them up from work/in other words invite them sans dates. But you don’t need to mention budget. I’d just blame it on capacity allowances.
Post # 9
I am inviting one co-worker and her boyfriend because she is my closest friend in the office. But I’m limiting it at only her. I have an office of 80+ people so if I start to invite workplace acquaintences, it would get too large.
Post # 10
I invited my coworkers but there are only 4 of them…and of the 4 only 3 are coming…but maybe you could invite them to the ceremony only…If YOU WANTED TOO of course…I’m sure they’d understand…if not…OH WELL…it’s YOUR DAY 🙂
Post # 11
@SugerPlum: The current way that most weddings go in the UK is that you have a ceremony then a drinks reception and a meal for a smaller number of people during the day and then a big dance with a light buffet in the evening (often one straight after the other) so you can invite people who aren’t so close to the evening reception at a much lower cost than inviting them all day.
On a separate note, we were up near Tayport at the weekend dropping off a friend of a friend who’d been staying with us.
Post # 12
@Kamazing: It’s rude to discuss an event (in detail) with people not invited to the event, so if you don’t want to invite them I would minimize the wedding talk around the office. Outside of weddingbee and other recent brides or soon-to-be brides, asking “how’s wedding planning?” is generally just a social nicety and all you have to say (and all they really want to hear) is “fine, thanks”.