(Closed) Are you inviting your Co-Workers to your wedding??

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m inviting co-workers to my evening reception but not the ceremony or the meal (which are family and close friends only and still at 140 people).

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

 @Kamazing: I’m in the same position as you and it’s especially tough because we’re a small office with only 10 people. I don’t think you should feel obliged to invite them just because you’ve been talking about wedding planning or they’ve been asking questions. How many people talk about their pregnancy at work? I wouldn’t feel slighted if I wasn’t invited to the birth! If there’s one or two people you’re close to, then yeah, invite them seperately.

 @SpecialSundae: My Fiance is Scottish, from Fife-Tayport! He knows nothing about weddings thought and I’m curious how you invite someone to a reception but not the meal? In the US those two things kind of go hand-in-hand.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am inviting co-workers to my at home reception but not to the actual destination wedding.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I am inviting my co-workers but I only have 12.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Nope, we’re not. We are trying to keep it under 50 people and the coworkers just didn’t make the cut.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I think it depends on how friendly you are with them in general.  If you don’t hang out outside of work, I wouldn’t worry about it but if the other way around, I would probably invite those I’m closest to but perhaps be a little honest about it and pair them up from work/in other words invite them sans dates.  But you don’t need to mention budget. I’d just blame it on capacity allowances.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am inviting one co-worker and her boyfriend because she is my closest friend in the office. But I’m limiting it at only her. I have an office of 80+ people so if I start to invite workplace acquaintences, it would get too large.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I invited my coworkers but there are only 4 of them…and of the 4 only 3 are coming…but maybe you could invite them to the ceremony only…If YOU WANTED TOO of course…I’m sure they’d understand…if not…OH WELL…it’s YOUR DAY 🙂

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@SugerPlum: The current way that most weddings go in the UK is that you have a ceremony then a drinks reception and a meal for a smaller number of people during the day and then a big dance with a light buffet in the evening (often one straight after the other) so you can invite people who aren’t so close to the evening reception at a much lower cost than inviting them all day.

On a separate note, we were up near Tayport at the weekend dropping off a friend of a friend who’d been staying with us.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@Kamazing: It’s rude to discuss an event (in detail) with people not invited to the event, so if you don’t want to invite them I would minimize the wedding talk around the office.  Outside of weddingbee and other recent brides or soon-to-be brides, asking “how’s wedding planning?” is generally just a social nicety and all you have to say (and all they really want to hear) is “fine, thanks”.

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