- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
All my guests are Out of Town as it’s a domestic destination wedding!
No, more than half our guests are from Out of Town and it was just not feasible budget-wise
Our wedding is basically a destination wedding. 90% of guests will have to travel.
We will be having a sit down rehearsal dinner for those involved in the rehearsal, and a “drop by and grab some food” buffet for all the other guests as they get into town.
It’ll be basically an “open house” at FMILs house with catered food.
I am definitely inviting them. Our rehearsal dinner is going to be very casual though. The ceremony will be in my parents backyard so we’ll have the rehearsal there too. Just some grilled chicken and drinks and sides. Nothing major, just casual and laid back like we are. My FI’s family and friends are flying into NY from California so there’s no way I’m going to be like oh sorry, we have things to do you can’t be here.
No, since almost everyone is out of town (and the in-town people are still driving over an hour). It’s just not feasible cost-wise. We’re thinking of inviting everyone to drop by for dessert and wine afterwards though.
No rehearsal dinners are typically for your bridal party/and immediate family. I know we only plan inviting who is in the wedding and just immediate family.
My Out of Town guests are all my fiance’s family (around 15ish people), so I am inviting them. But, a good number of them are in, or involved, in the wedding anyway :o)
We’re inviting all Out of Town guests which is pretty much all the guests (and will be mainly family) as thats what both our parents felt was traditional.
Over half of our guests will be Out of Town so its just not financially savy for us. Plus we view the rehersal dinner as a way to thank the bridal party for all of their hard work and support.
All family and Out of Town guests are coming to the rehearsal. We just saw no way around it! But that comes out to about 50 people at least, and we didn’t want to deal with that many in a restaurant (the space alone!) so we decided to do a low country boil at my FSIL’s house- they have TONS of land, plenty of space in the house, and a pool, so any kids can keep busy running around swimming and everyone won’t be crowded into a 50 person table in a restaurant dining room.
We had no bridal party or “rehearsal” but we did do dinner the night before for any wedding guest who wanted to attend. It was a casual dinner at my in-laws. We probably had about 100 people or so.
Eek. I know it will cause a stink because my aunts and cousins that I am close with will probably be there just because we are so close and they will probably be staying with my mom. My FI’s family will all be from out of town… Guess they need to come too,huh? haha. Not as close to them. Did not think about feeding so many mouths!
We were trying not to have a 2nd wedding and keep costs down, so we limited the Rehearsal Dinner to wedding party + spouses + kids, parents and grandparents. Even with these limitations there were 60 people. But there definitely were some people who weren’t in the category who should have gotten an invite and I didn’t realize it until after the wedding. Like our friends who flew in the day before and ran all around town picking up alcohol for the Rehearsal Dinner, which I was totally oblivious of. I was told they were traveling the day of the wedding and had no idea they were helping out like that. I felt so horrible about this and wish I could go back and invite all Out of Town guests, the more the merrier.
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