(Closed) Are YOU jealous???

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 32
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Blushing bee

I’m jealous of women with perfect hair.

Hmm, I guess that’s not wedding-related. I don’t get too jealous of other peoples’ weddings, engagements, and whatnot because, like quirkyparsnip, I’m more judgmental (for no particularly good reason). My friend will get married, and I’ll think things like, "Well, I’m glad *I’m* not the one marrying him!" and other privately snide thoughts. 🙂  I can be so mean. 

Post # 33
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I empathize with you bees because …

I. Am. Jealous!!!

There, I said it. If Mr. Blondie were reading this, he’d point a finger and burst into shrieks of ‘I knew it!!’ as I’ve been denying it forever. We’ve been dating ~5.5 years, so we’ve built up a big mutual friend pool — many of whom are couples recently getting engaged, married and moving in together. And let me tell you … it’s maddening!! I just want the whole damn ball to get rolling already.

OK, I understand why we aren’t engaged yet (BF is finishing up a Philly-area police academy/waiting to hear back on job offers and I have a great job in NYC), and I’m ok with it … but after going to wedding after wedding lately, I’m about to lose my freakin mind!

He doesn’t understand how I can be absolutely happy for our friends getting married, but at the same time greener than anything with envy over their planning and the beginning of their new lives together. But it’s so true! 

Humph. Guess I’ll keep counting on the Hive to keep my jealousy/wedding bug in check 🙂

Post # 34
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

For some wild reason…I am not a jealous person.  Not at all.  Just always been cool with whatever..I’ve got several friends marrying right now and am super happy for them!  No ring envy.  Just happy for them.

My guy makes more $$ than I do (a good bit) but that doesn’t make me jealous either.  Heck I don’t even get jealous when we’re out in public and women give him "the eye" if you know what I mean.  He’s not jealous either. 

Maybe I’m wierd or something.  I dunno.

Post # 35
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Busy bee

I don’t get jealous of the things people have, but the one thing that always gets me is when our friends get engaged.  I know, I know, it will happen when the time’s right.  But there’s something so romantic about being with the person you love and getting engaged when you feel it’s right in your heart and not on paper.  Whether it was three months or three years.  My BFs one and only "flaw" (if you want to call it that) is that everything has to be planned and by the book.  Sigh. 

Luckily I get to live vicariously through my friends and help them plan their weddings!

Post # 36
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I am not jealous of anyone…..I am greatful that I have my job, and that my Fiance has his. I am happy we still have our house and that we are healthy. I am happy that we can afford to even plan a wedding, even if it is small. There are too many people who don’t have any of this stuff going for them to even think about being jealous of someone elses good fortune. I am counting my blessings. Money and things are nice, but they certainly are not the most important aspects of life. I am really happy that I have found the one I am going to spend the rest of my life with and that we have the chance to be together.

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

The only thing I would be jealous of is if someone wore my dream dress that I could not afford..well I could afford it technically but I couldn’t bring myself to buy it and I found a cheaper one that I loved almost just a much. If I ever see anyone in it I will rip it off them. LOL. Other than that- other people’s weddings are so personal and have nothing to do with me so I see it as kind of pointless to be jealous. Like how I think it’s pointless to be jealous celebrities or something. Does that make sense? 

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I opened a can of worms. I am not jealous about the money because honestly, we share this good fortune. However, I always thought I would be the more successful partner. So, that is just a lesson I am coming to terms with.

Can I be jealous of his perfect skin and perfect skin tone? Yes.

I was certainly jealous when a friend of his had only been dating for a month and then was engaged for only 4 months following that before they wed. He’d been asking me since the day after we met, however, it will have been a year and half longer than this other couple before we make it official. 

I am always impressed by what strong character and personality the Bee’s have….it really is contangious. 

Post # 39
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I do feel weird when I have friends who are like, "omg i’m so jealous of you" because in my opinion, i’ve PUT my time in. But that’s far and few between. People think because they’re *almost* 23 or they’re 24 or so they should have gotten married before me because "i can’t believe you’re younger than me getting married" or "you were my age when your Fiance proposed…and my Boyfriend or Best Friend hasn’t proposed yet! Wah, it’s not a competition. Well that’s all just stupid in my opinion. Then again, these girls are rushing to get married, too, so…we’ll see what happens I guess. I personally could never have taken the plunge at a year. I  have seen how much a relationship evolves over the first couple of years you’re together so that even if you *know* i’m a huge advocate of "what’s the rush" also. I have lots of friends who dated for 4 years and suddenly went, "Crap i’m tired of you." and it happens.

I think it’s a recipe for failure if you base your marriage on the ages your friends get married! I think the grass is always on the greener side. I’m partially jealous a friend of mine’s mom is just handing her the money for her wedding while i’m paying for my own, but at the same time I know she’s jealous my Fiance and I have a lovely house already. So…whatever is what I say!

I still get to have the first baby Muah ha ha. 

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’ll try to stick to the topic here. Before I was engaged, was I jealous of those who were engaged? Heck Yes! Fortunately, the sting was only after my Fiance and I hit the 1.5 year mark and I really felt it was a possibility we could get engaged soon, so everyone who beat me to the punch to me was like "Is it ever going to happen for me?"

Now that I’m engaged, I’m just a liiiittllee jealous of everyone on these boards whose dates are closer than mine! lol. I’ve been watching waaay too many wedding shows. Thankfully, we only started with a six-month engagement. Everyone criticised us for it in the beggining as if it weren’t enough time for planning, but I’m totally glad we didn’t make it a year, and I’ve had no trouble getting everything done in my timeframe.

Does anyone else think people just say a year because its standard? I mean, once you get started, everything’s planned and you’re waiting for the date, it’s let COME ON ALREADY!

Post # 41
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Newbee

I don’t know if I’d use the word jealous, because to me that implies that I begrudge the other person their engagement or wish it was me instead of them. I think for me it is more of a ‘I’m really happy for you but this is a big remember to me that I’m not engaged!’

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

i wouldnt say i get jealous, but like others have posted, i get judgemental (which in a way, is a form of jealousy if you really think about it bc you are judging someone’s actions saying "if you WERE in that situation, THIS IS how I would do it.." (does that make sense? lol)

On to my jealousy/judgemental story, yes I did get jealous/envious when one of my closest gf’s got engaged in 2006, a few months leading up to that, she practically gave her then Fiance (now husband) an ultimatum to propose to her! which, I didnt agree with AT ALL.  (on top of that, my Boyfriend college sweetheart (at the time) was getting ready to move back to his homeland across the world….so yea, you could say i was jealous of her situation bc we had been dating the same timeline…)

BUT THEN, she planned the wedding and I thought that it was dumb that she was hell bent on getting married within a year (there was a lot of stuff going on in their lives in which having a long engagement would have probably been the best option for them. school, etc.)  So that was frustrating bc on one hand I feel that she gave an ultimatum to her Fiance, was hell bent on having their wedding within a year, and then on the other hand, complaining about all the stress that it caused as a result of it. 

and then, the kicker…about a year or so after their marriage, she said she regreted doing everything so early and "rushing into marriage" ! WTF?!?!?!?!?!? Nobody was holding a gun to your head to get married within the timeline that you wanted!

geez, love her to death, but sooooooo effin frustrating!!!! lol.

oh, and nowadays I do get jealous when i see other girls OVERLY oggling my man (soon to be FI) in that way…just disrespectful!  Like seriously, yes, I know my man is extremely good looking, but that doesnt mean that you need to be staring at him like you are about to jump up on it! Seriously take a look and keep it movin! Sometimes I want to rip girls’ eyeballs out….HAHHA

ok bees, so apparently I DO have a jealousy problem!! HAHHA

Post # 43
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Wannabee

Here’s a situation…my fiance’s ex purposefully chose the same date and time of day for her wedding. why would someone do that on purpose? she even copied information describing her wedding day directly from someone else’s knot profile. she clearly wants to share her anniversary with us for the rest of her life! congrats to her.

Post # 44
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

The only thing that I am really jealous of are those brides who don’t have to worry about whether their parents will be a part of their wedding .. its a difficult path to go down but I’m doing it none the less. (and in 10 days!!) 

Post # 45
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Haha, Soon2BMrsCLW3, sounds like a nice problem =]. But i hear ya, my Fiance gets pissy if I get all dressed up and I get ogled in that creepy kinda way by strangers. He’s like, "dude, that guy is Eye-Fing you" and it irritates him. It’s not like I’m asking for it, but people just don’t know when to take a glance and move on! I just take it as a compliment that i look especially nice in whatever it is i’m wearing. I certainly don’t get looked at like that in my PJ’s, lol. At least you have a yummy Fiance, right?

The closer I get, the less I care about everyone else’s wedding and stuff. Now that so many details are finalized, I’m giddy with glee over how sweeeeet all my details are. I don’t have the energy to be jealous of anyone else! ha. Except sometimes the women at the gym with the large center stone diamonds. I’m not jealous persay (you can’t be jealous of somethng you just cannot afford IMO) because for all I know, her husband’s a CEO and makes 300K a year. She’s also in her 40’s and I’m uh, 23. It’s more of an ogling over it kind of thing. Sure, I’d love to have it, though! ha. 

Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

 uhhhh yea, totally LOVE that my boy is a wonderful guy who is VERY EASY on the eyes!!!! muhuhuhuaaa i guess its just my catty side coming out since I am VERY respectful of other people’s SO’s no matter if they are drop dead gorgeous, so I expect the same respect to be shown to me! lol.  BY FAR the best story was when he was walking my weiner dog for me one Sunday morning and had a tour bus of older church ladies STOP their bus and open the door and began flirting with him and telling him how gorgeous he was!! These women were falling out of the bus ogling my boy! i about doubled over from laughter hearing the story bc I just thought it was so cute! <div class="commenttext bumble-bee">@shabbychic, you might want to keep your eye on her, she sounds like a crazy spiteful person!!!  Clearly she isnt over your Fiance.  People do stuff like that when they havent moved on from a situation.  Good luck!

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