Are you keeping your wedding dress a secret?

posted 1 year ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I don’t really care about people’s responses, but I am keeping mine a secret because I don’t want opinions. The same reason why I only took my Maid/Matron of Honor with my dress shopping. It’s just easier that way lol. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I showed mine to pretty much anyone and everyone- except for my fiance of course! It can be hard in pictures because you’re not made up, with your hair done, no accessories or veil or flowers…so if you’re wanting that “wow” response it might make sense to wait until the wedding day when you’re all “jacked up,” to steal a term from Say Yes to the Dress. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee

Yeah one of my FSIL’s said ‘Oh… It’s very… you’ haha! She had been rude about everything else we had showed her in relation to the wedding, so after that I stopped showing her things. It’s not like I was forcing her to look at wedding things, she asked to see them.

If you love your dress and you feel WOW in it then that’s all that matters 🙂

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I’ve showed basically everyone except FH haha I’m going to look different the day of the wedding anyways!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I showed a few people, Maid/Matron of Honor, bridesmaid, Mother-In-Law, my mom and a few other close friends.  Maybe 10 people total

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I showed a few people, my Maid/Matron of Honor, bridesmaids, Mother-In-Law, SIL, etc…my Mother-In-Law was very meh about the dress, which is fine because it’s not everyone’s taste (long sleeves & lace). I didn’t want everyone to know how it looked though, but telling a few people was fine.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

winewithwedding :  I did! I’m a size 12/14ish, so most of the samples I tried on were close to my size, but for the “one” I tried on it was a size 18, so the fit isn’t that flattering even with the clips (it basically hangs off my chest, which I know from trying on the same brand dress close to my size that it won’t look like that, and I know it’ll cinch my waist, etc.), AND the dress I tried on is blush, but ivory looked sooooooooooo much better with my skin, so with the pic of my dress I’m like, “OK you have to use your imagination because basically it looks nothing like this” hahaha. 

I’m showing people but just shrugging off the lackluster reactions. I have a pic of the dress that looked better on me in the store (due to color and fit) bu tknow the details of the dress I actually bought are way more interesting and I like them better.  

Post # 13
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Busy bee

 I’ve showed a few of my bridesmaids my dress, but otherwise am keeping it to myself. I’m amazed at how many people have asked me to see pics, though.

I think that your disappointment may stem from putting too many expectations on what others will think. After looking at so many dresses (and seeing so many on here) I’ve realized that people’s tastes are vastly different. I like plain dresses with small details, very timeless, and anything beaded or lace is realllly not my taste or even attractive to me. I know that others feel differently and love all the bling and the romantic details. Therefore, I haven’t put any stock into what others have said about my dress- except my mom, because she knows me best and was with me and knew it was “the one” as well. I am hoping my ladies will gush and think I look beautiful on my wedding day when the whole look comes together, but I wasn’t expecting any grand declarations via text when I sent pictures of me in a too big dress with a tired face after a long day of looking.

That said, I have always tried to be very encouraging when I’ve seen someone else’s dress that they have committed to and paid for, because it is the polite thing to do.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

winewithwedding :  I feel like that is polite thing to do, but as we know, some people are just too wrapped up in their own minds to realize that adding even an ! would make the text read better.

I showed my bridesmaids that are family because my aunts kept hinting that I should show them, so I did. I will probably show my other 4 bridesmaids once I see them in person at brunch/HH in the next few weeks. The family BMs aren’t close with the friend BMs, so there is no way they would be discussing who saw what, when. I’m not intentionally keeping this a secret from bridesmaids, it’s just kind of how it worked out.

In your shoes, if they are all relatively close, I would show them all if you think hurt feelings might be involved. Also, one may give you a nice reaction 🙂

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