Are you keeping your wedding dress/shoe/accessories a secret from FI?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Has your FI seen your dress, shoes or accessories?
    Dress : (34 votes)
    18 %
    Shoes : (51 votes)
    27 %
    Accessories : (39 votes)
    21 %
    He's seen all of it! : (18 votes)
    10 %
    He's seen none of it - will be a surprise for the big day! : (45 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 32
    11232 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Oops, I voted wrong. Your topic question and poll questions are different, so I voted with the topic question.

    He’s seen my shoes (I DIYed them) and my maybe necklace. He vetoed the headband I wanted, haha. He has not (and doesn’t want to) see my dress.

    Post # 33
    33 posts
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Mine has seen pics on the website. He thinks they all look alike.  He won’t remember!

    Post # 34
    371 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    He has seen everything, but has only seen the stock photo of the dress. I’m okay with him seeing me in everything else though (dress is where we both draw the line), because I know for a fact he will still think I look stunning on our wedding day, even if he’s seen my shoes and such beforehand.  

    Post # 35
    10713 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My Darling Husband saw everything before the wedding because he helped me pick it all out and he paid for it all lol. We did everything together for the wedding, it made the whole planning period very special.

    Post # 36
    117 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    The only thing he will see is my shoes. We’re wearing personalized converse and I could care less if he sees them. He knows my dress is Alfred Angelo and that’s all he will know about intil the wedding day.

    Post # 37
    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    He’s seen my dress, even a photo of me in the dress, but after I officially purchase it and do the alterations he won’t see it again until the wedding. I’m fairly sure he’ll forget the details by next year anyway. Someone here on the boards brought up an interesting point that she and her Fiance made financial decisions together and because a wedding gown is such a big purchase for a lot of women, it shouldn’t be so taboo to show him. I totally understand why a lot of brides will hide the dress until the big day and I probably would have done the same but I wanted his opinion too. I also don’t mind showing my fiance my dress because the last thing I’d want is to hide it from him the entire time until the day of the wedding until to find out hated it. My mom thought I was nuts though hahah

    Post # 38
    577 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    He has seen some of my accessories because I won them at a bridal expo and he drove me to pick them up from the shop. I’m not sure what of the set I will actually be wearing though. The necklace is definitely a statement piece and I will have to try it on with the dress to see if it is too much. I do like the bracelet and hair clip though so those are definitely in.

    He also saw my first round shoes but they were too big and not exactly what I thought they’d be so I returned them. I lost shipping on those but I learned a valuable lesson – I am not my usual shoe size in ballet flats.

    Post # 39
    1733 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My husband saw my necklace before the wedding, because I made it and wanted to make sure that I wasn’t crazy and that it did look cool. He also saw the veil, which I also made myself. Shoes and dress were off-limits though!

    Post # 40
    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I voted wrong. He has seen my shoes, and will probably have seen my accessories, but the dress exists only in legend (ie., me telling him it’s made out of leather, or that the sleeves puff out THIS BIG, or that it’s a replica of Princess Leia’s dress.)

    Post # 41
    872 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    The dress and necklace/earrings are a secret, but the veil and shoes he already knows about because I had a big mouth about veil since I was so excited about it, and then he was there when I found my wedding shoes and he ended up buying me two pairs of the shoes so I could practice in one pair and then have the official ones for the day of the wedding. They were on sale and pretty cheap, so it worked out! 

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