(Closed) are you letting your BM’s pick their dresses?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll:
    my BM's picked their own color, style, brand, everything : (11 votes)
    11 %
    my BM's picked their own style and brand, but not basic color : (29 votes)
    30 %
    my BM's picked their own style, but not brand or color : (34 votes)
    35 %
    my BM's bought the dress of the style, brand, and color I selected : (23 votes)
    23 %
    my BM's picked their own color, but not brand or style : (1 votes)
    1 %
    my BM's picked their own color and brand, but not style : (0 votes)
    my BM's picked their own color and style, but not brand : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    29 posts
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I was recently in a wedding where the bride allowed us to do what you are talking about here (the designer she chose was Beloise). It was a really nice idea, but it didn’t work out well in this situation because the styles we got to choose from weren’t great and no one was any happier than usual. For my own wedding, I let my BMs choose any style and any color dress from the J Crew Bridesmaid or Best Man selection as long as it was in the same fabric. I think it’s going to look great–especially since i’m not super into matchy-matchy styles.

    Post # 4
    3871 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    That’s what I did. I picked about 20 dresses from DB in cornflower blue and told them to pick whatever dress they wanted.

    I think it worked out. I didn’t have any complaints.

    Post # 5
    235 posts
    Helper bee

    Well, my sister let us do this, but the color and fabric on the styles they came in were less than flattering…

    I am doing the same and have specified a long, same fabric/color from the Amsale Bridesmaid or Best Man collection. I hope my BMs are happy!

    Post # 6
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I picked like 10 dresses from David’s in watermelon and let them pick.  Everyone seems happy.  Ironically enough, the dress I would have picked if I wanted everyone to match…no one picked!  So I’m glad I let them pick their own.

    Post # 7
    6659 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I tried to do this and it was shot down by all of them. They preferred for me to pick it, so I did! Hah!


    Post # 8
    984 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I did this and I’m so glad I did. I told the girls to pick a short dress from David’s Bridal in apple red. Turned out to be a good idea because my soon to be SIL will be about 7 months pregnant at the wedding so she got to choose something she’ll be comfortable in. Also my girls are such different sizes/shapes and have such different tastes that I knew I couldn’t pick something that everyone would like. It seemed to work well!

    Post # 9
    134 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I have 4 requirements:

    – knee length

    – not-too-dark grey with yellow accents/accessories

    – not too casual, not too fancy

    – love it


    Yea, I’d rather they feel awesome in their dresses and I’m not too concerned with exact matching colors.

    Post # 10
    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I pretty much told my girls to pick whatever dress they wanted in a certain color (shades could even differ). Somehow, they all ended up picking the same Dessy dress. Haha! My Maid/Matron of Honor just got hers in a slight different shade, so she stood out, but other than that, they all liked the same dress .. and an actual Bridesmaid or Best Man dress (non department store dress) to boot. It was weird, but they all looked beautiful and amazing.

    Post # 11
    2856 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I didn’t have any bridesmaids only an Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister). The only guideline I gave her was to buy a black dress. I let her pick the style and brand. We ended up going shopping together with my mom and found my sister’s dress at the White House Black Market store… I LOVE that place.

    Post # 12
    2857 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

    I’m going to let them wear whatever they want, within some parameters. As long as they fit within the wedding colors, are approximately knee-length, and are flirty/vintage looking instead of too sleek or sexy.

    Post # 13
    713 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I told them I want “seaglass” colors. So this ranges from seafoam to light sage to aqua to celadon.  I dont want them to match at all in the style department.. I would love for one or 2 to pick some sort of pattern. They can spend whatever they feel comfortable with. Yea, Im pretty laid back with this. Every 2 weeks or so I send them an email update with about 10 dresses I’ve come across and loved (jcrew, ann taylor, macys, modcloth, anthropologie, and a few “bridesmaid” dresses to round it out). None of them have committed yet but we have plenty of time. 

    Post # 14
    1756 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Knee-length and a cooler shade of purple (meaning blue rather than red undertones) were my only requirements. So far, I’ve gotten a lot of “Will this work?” emails from them, but no one has actually chosen a dress.

    Post # 16
    3124 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    Blue, any length but floor or miniskirt, haha.  That was really it.  No preference in blues, either and i didn’t care what color shoe. 2 of my girls wore PINK ones!



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