(Closed) Are you lonely as a parent?

posted 4 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Yes. I’m currently a Stay-At-Home Mom (work a few hours out of the house every week), and this has been one of the hardest things to get used to. Some days, depending on how my daughter naps, my husband may be the only other adult I interact with. Play groups can be hard because her naps can be inconsistent, depending on what time she wakes up. 

But like the article says- this is a season, and I feel so fortunate to be able to spend this time with my daughter.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I work because I would go insane as a Stay-At-Home Mom (well, that and I can’t afford not to). I only come into the office 3 days per week and that works really well for me to not lose it. Being a Stay-At-Home Mom can be so isolating and I just need the stimulation that my job provides. I give SAHMs a ton of credit!! It’s so much more work than people that have never done it can even begin to realize. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This is something i’m concerned about. I’m in Canada, so I’ll get a year of mat leave, and I’m worried about feeling isolated….

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t think I could ever be a full-time stay at home mom because it is lonely.  I remember on maternity leave its like – okay now what and it is true sometimes the only other adult you see is your husband.  It doesn’t help that my son was born early february in chicago – which means we were kinda trapped in the house for at least the first 6 weeks because of the frigid temps.  I like going to work for nothing other than the social interaction.  I wish I could work halfdays all week and then spend more time with my son – maybe I would even join one of those mom groups lol.

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m a bit of a loner – one woman wolf pack so to speak – and although I have plans to be a Stay-At-Home Mom, I only plan to take this role on part-time. Well, 75% of the time. I plan to work about 16-24 h per week (after a year of maternity leave) within hours that are convenient for school (9-3). I’m been PLANNING this so not only is the job slowly working itself out (Mon-Thu 8-2 and Fri 11-2), but I’m mentally prepared for it.

I actually like to go a few days without SPEAKING. Completely mute, but that’s tough to accomplish with Fiance. If it weren’t for him, I could easily do it, :).

I think some people adapt better to isolation than others.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I was a STAHM and I met a group of women in my pregnancy workouts at the the gym. We were mostly all due around the same time and after the babies were born, we all went to the postpartum class where we could bring our newborns.

We had a tight core group of 5 but others would come and go. At first we took turns hosting at each other’s homes once a week (everyone brought their own snacks) and the babies slept while we bitched about no sleep, sore boobs and no energy for our husbands.😉 But as the kids got older, they became friends and we would all sign up for the same Mommy And Me, Gymboree, toddler music classes, hang out at the mall, etc. Soon it was Disneyland, zoos, holiday parties.

The all still know each other to this day and two of these women became my best friends. It turned out to be the best thing I ever did. But find a group you click with and it will keep you SANE through this transition in your life. I read somewhere that you have more in common with moms anywhere in the world, than you do with your childless friends. Not to say those should be discarded-but they are going to have a lot less to say about your baby’s BMs😛

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

saratiara2:  Same.  We moved to a new town 1 hr + from where we used to live (and where we work).  I’m worried I won’t have any mom friends (or non-mom friends) up here until summer!  It’s a serious concern.  

Everyone keeps laughing at me because I’ve signed up for mommy and me yoga and mommy and me fitness classes (1 hour each a week) for the winter session.  How will I know that my baby will be able to do it or that I’ll want to do it?  My concern is less that and more me losing my mind without some interaction.  At least this way I have a goal to get out of the house 2 days a week. 

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