(Closed) Are you marrying an older man?

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

You cant even see an age difference! You two look great.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Not that it would matter if you could, anyways.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’re only 2.5 years apart so its really no biggie.  My Bridesmaid or Best Man and very dear friend married a man that was about the same age difference as you guys are.  They got married 3 years ago, have a child and are very happy.  The same goes for my Aunt, she married my uncle who was 17 years older, they’ve been married for 20 years.  It always perplexes me when others get weirded out  by the age difference.  Although I’m kinda liberal when it comes to love.  As long as you’re both genuinely happy, I don’t care what color/age/creed/religion/sexual orientation you are.  Just that you’re happy!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

I’m with justlikeheaven – I can’t even tell that you guys are that far apart in age…you both look great! Congrats!

My guy is only a year older than me (I remind him all the time hehe…), but my parents were 7 years apart. I don’t think it’s really that big of an age difference, especially now, but she was 20 and he was 27 when they got married…so it was more apparent when they were younger. They’ve been married for 33 years though!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I just wanted to say–your Fiance does not look 41!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

Gotta agree with everyone else, I’d never know there was that big of an age gap… you both look awesome!! He’s 4 years older than me, not a huge age gap, but when we first started dating I was 19 so my parents were a little wary. Now, I think they love him more than me!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You two look like a very cute couple!  My FH will be 39 (never married before, no kids) and I’ll be 28 when we get married.  I’ve been divorced and have a daughter who is 3 1/2.  Best wishes to you both!!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would totally not think that there was that big of an age gap!  Age is just a number it really means nothing.  My Fiance and I are 4 years 11 months apart.  Its no biggie for us!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We are only 6 years apart, so he’s older, but I don’t consider him an “older man.” (Those two words together like that seem to have such a funny connotation!)

You two look great together – I’d never know there was such a big age difference (not that it matters!). 🙂

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

My husband is five years older than me but I can’t say I’ve ever noticed outside of conversations about what TV shows we watched as children.

I think age just tends to be a marker of similar life experiences and attitudes, and a high degree of that promotes relationship longevity. When I was about 22 I went on a few dates with guys in their 30s. In the end it didn’t work out because we had nothing in common. We were in totally different stages of life and the age gap was partially to blame for that. But if you find the right person, they are the right person no matter what age they are.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My Fiance is nine years older than me, well technically 8 years and 11 months.  😉  I am 25 and he is 34.  But he looks super young, like he gets carded more often than I do and he is very young at heart as well (i.e. loves his Saturday morning cartoons).  I think it runs in the family though.  My brother is married to a woman who is seven years older than he is and my sister is getting engaged tomorrow to a man who is 11 years older than she is.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

no he does not look 41 at all! that makes him the same age as my parents (they had me young) and he looks years younger than him!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My Fiance is 34, so 7 years older. We met while I was still in school, and then went to graduate school, so I’m now just 5 months into my first professional job. That is a big difference between us, he is well established. We are also clearly from different generations. He was a grunge kid, saw Nirvana, etc, when he was young, and saw most of my favorite bands before they were big. That is funny, IMO. I’m very much a millenial: aspiring, a little entitled, hyper well-prepared, etc. He is very gen-x: a little jaded, relies more on connections than credentials, etc. We’re happy, though, and well matched.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with pp – your FH does not look 41 😉

I’m not so young, but young-ish. I’m 28 and my FH is 44. I’ve never dated anyone my own age, so it wasn’t a huge surprise to my parents when I brought him home. They LOVE LOVE LOVE him, so the age difference is no big deal. It’s funny, FH’s parents had him very young, and my parents had me mid-30’s, so our parents are all basically the exact same age.

The only “issue” we’ve run into is that we need to get started on babies soon, so FH isn’t a new dad to a baby in his 50’s. I never really expected to have kids until well into my 30’s, and feel no real maternal urge now, but I know we need to hurry up a bit.

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