(Closed) Are you marrying an older man?

posted 12 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 242
4 posts

I am 22 and he is 29, 30 in July. So technically we are 7.5 years apart. On a day to day basis, the age difference is not bad at all. His family adores me, my family adores him ( I thought they’d freak out when I first told them) And I get along well with all his friends. There are a few major differences

1. being 22, I still have a desire to go out with friend’s and party, where as with his friends we tend to just hang out.

2. He is much more established then me. I’ve only had full time jobs for the last year, and a portion of that unemployed. Up until 10 months ago, I either lived at school or with my parents, so I am adjusting to being on my own and legit being an adult. ( we live together so that adds another thing to the mix) He has owned a house for 7 years and though not really well off, has always been finanically stable while I have debt from mistakes like getting a credit card to soon. Other then when I have to ask questions about normal adult things I don’t know much about, it’s not an issue


3. Talking about anything involving culture and our childhood. It tends to make things akward. For example he remembers the OJ trial in the early 90s, I was to young to. Or when we realize I was in 3rd grade when he was a freshman, and in middle school when he was out of college. Hell, when he bought his home, I was 15!


Mainly it can lead to some akward moments, and jokes between his fam on if he is robbing the cradle or if I am robbing the grave.lol It’s really not a big deal for me, as I’ve always been mature.

Post # 243
373 posts
Helper bee

I’m 24 and my Fiance is 39.. He doesn’t look or act like it tho.. Lol

Post # 244
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Walnut Beach Resort

I just have to say, I love this thread. Age difference seems crazy to people who have never dated outside of their own age, but it really is about where you are in your life rather than how old you are. My Fiance is 35 and I am 24 and we have been dating for almost 7 years. His mom is actually younger than both of my parents because she had him quite young. When we met, he was actually back living with his mom because she was going through some things, so it seemed like we were the same age. We both went through school during the time we’ve been together, and we bought a house together last August. His birthday is coming up before our wedding so he will be 36 on our wedding day and I will turn 25 three months later. As far as maturity level goes, I definitely have a higher one than him! We only notice the age difference when talking about grade school or pop culture, same as the rest of you 🙂 I love that I can ask him random life questions and he can teach me things. I love him to bits and wouldnt trade him for any 20-something!

Post # 245
4 posts

Me too … I am marring a man who is 18 years older than me 

I am 25 and he is 43 .. Never planed to date younger or older man … don’t have any dad complex .. not a money digger .. he doesn’t seek younger women … he doesn’t paly games .. our relationship isn’t build on lust. 

We were just a man and women meet and liked each others alot … had lots of common … want lots of the same stuff in life … became friends .. starting to fall in love and by the time we found each one of us doesn’t want to leave the other and return home we decided to get married and live together 

We are getting engagmed after few weeks by 22 May .. not everyone knows about our age gap and they tell me wooow your man is hot and never doubt that he would be in his mid thirties 😀 My family loves him allot and i love him allot 🙂 

Post # 246
515 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m 30 and he is 39. When we met I was 23 and I thought he was only 25-26. I was shocked when I found out he was in his 30’s.  We don’t notice an age difference except when it comes to talking about our childhood or highschool years. He graduated high school when I was still in elementary school. Haha!

Post # 247
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@RenoRose:  Wow! Would never guess there was an age gap between you two. 

I think all of you look great together and you really can’t tell there’s a big gap. 

My Fiance is only 5 months older then me so it doesn’t count. But I’ve dated others before where there was a 10-11 year age difference. I didn’t mind it but the men I found were perverts just wanting to be with a young girl. 

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a big age gap when you find the one that’s all that matters. 

Post # 248
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yep, but not a huge difference. Fiance is 28, I’m 24. We met when I was 18 and he was 22… someone told me the other day they couldn’t imagine meeting the person they would marry when they were 18 and I was like.. you’re right! never even thought about that, haha.

Post # 249
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am 16.5 year younger than my fiance. I am 31 and he is 47. I have dated older and younger and I couldn’t IMAGINE going the younger route again! Him and I just FIT together perfectly. We both aren’t into playing games- we just love each other. He has been married before and he is very set in his ways, but that is what I love about him. He is never going to change who he is- THANK GOD! We have been together over 4 years and both of our families are ecstatic that we are getting married. Of course it was hard at 26 to tell my parents at the time our age difference, but they saw how great he was and how happy he made me. The only resignation I would have about others dating an older man is those in their young 20’s. I feel that I am a VERY different person than I was from 25 than I am today. If you are younger than 25, my advice would be to keep dating for awhile and make sure you are in this for the long run! Partying should not be a priority in your life when you decide to marry anyone- let alone an older man. That is what is so great about them- they are established, know what they want and are mature (well, most of them)! I wish you all the best in your upcoming marriage!!

Post # 250
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

There’s about 3 years difference, so yes! lol

Post # 252
1735 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I married 9 years older. I’m 23, he’s 32.

Post # 253
334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Not too much older. We are 6 years apart. I could never see myself dating a man my age!

Post # 255
46 posts
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’ve heard a few remarks. “Robbing the cradle”, “Sugar daddy”, etc. I am 22 and FH is 33. He is the oldest man I’ve dated, but we are crazy about one another. Smile


Post # 256
7 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m 21 and my fiance is 27. None of my friends and family have a problem with him being older (I think). At first I ruled him out because he was a bit older than me, but I’m glad I didn’t. 

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