(Closed) Are you marrying someone of the same race/ethnicity?

posted 11 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

My husband and I are both originally from Taiwan. I grew up in Taiwan/Canada/US while he grew up in Latin American and didn’t come to US until college years. So even though we’re from the same race, we are actually pretty different πŸ™‚

For starters, his Spanish is better than his Chinese. So all of our serious talks are all done in English cz otherwise he wouldn’t know what I said.

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Ceremony at the Lanikuhonua Phase II private estate, reception at a historic hotel in Waikiki

I’m a Nebraska born korean/chinese/japanese mutt, and Mr P is full korean.  No cultural barriers since I’m familiar with korean culture, but moreso a language barrier between me and his parents.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee

I am white (half french, half irish).  My Fiance is half Native American, half Italian/German.  He identifies closely with his Native American heritage and I am eager to learn : )

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m a true Heinz 57 (Polish, British, German & some rumored French) and my fiancee is Native American & Irish.  My Future Mother-In-Law looks very native with her strong nose, dark hair and cheekbones, but my FH’s father was a pale Irish man, so he’s a little ‘washed out’, lol.  He still has prominent cheek bones and jawline though, which I love.  My favorite part?  His smooth pecks!  I swear they stay cut even when he’s not working out, and he’s not a hairy guy by any means.  I tell him he looks like one of the warriors in Dances with Wolves.

*swoon*

I love that he’s a bit exotic looking compared to my blond & blue πŸ™‚

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Rancho Bernardo Inn

I’m half-Chinese and Mr. Ducky is Caucasian.  He loves my Asian culture and background.  I don’t think it’s ever been an issue in our relationship, but for me personally I used to feel like I didn’t belong in either culture and insecure based on other’s negative comments.  I’ve grown past that and learned to embrace my diversity and that I’m a bit of a unique "mix."

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Fi is english (2nd mayflower types)/italian and I am Afro-Caribbean (although my family is black we have Native Carib Indian and some European background in there too). I’ve date both within and outside of my race. I was at the point where I thought dating within my race would be better for me personally, and then I met Fiance. I think we’ve both been able to balance our racial and cultural (and in many ways religious) differences.

@Josalyn – I can definitely understand some of apprehension re: kids. I’m am lighterskinned so it will be very interesting if our kids turn out looking blonde πŸ™‚ I think they’ll be pretty cute though πŸ™‚

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I am African American and my fiance is Afro-Caribbean.  It’s funny because if you just saw us you would say that we are both black.  But we both grew up very differently in terms of religion, customs, food…practically everything…so I sometimes feel like i’m dating someone outside of my race…lol.  And I still don’t sometimes understand my Future Mother-In-Law in casual conversation because of her stong accent. 

Post # 24
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We’re both white, grew up in towns about 20 miles away from each other, but we both dated lots of people of different races in the past.  I’ve always kept an open mind about whomever I date, as long as he is a good man, nice person, etc.  It just happened that way that we came from similar family backgrounds after all.

Post # 25
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Fiance is white and I’m latina.   

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception

Weirdly enough I am dating the same race. To be bi-racial and meet someone who is also bi-racial with pretty much the same mix, Filipino/Caucasion (German), is quite rare. That’s pretty much what got us talking in the first place. :o)

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

My Fi is black and I am white.  For us, it is not an issue.  He grew up going to mostly white schools and such (which, in the part of the South where he is from, means something), and we’re also both Protestants.  For the most part, this means no cultural issues.  However, his family did not go to the same kinds of schools as the two of us, so that means sometimes when he and I are on the same page about something, his family is not even reading from the same book.

Post # 28
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Busy bee

We’re both white and our families have been in America forever, so no big cultural gaps there.  Biggest difference was Catholic/Protestant, but it hasn’t been an issue so far.

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Same race (white), but he is from Ukraine and I am from America. He has the background of being in the former Soviet Union, although he’s been here 7 years and is very assimilated. Every once in awhile, though, something will pop up and I will think "oh yeah that’s right- we were raised in totally different cultures!" It’s really been fun for the most part, however. I am trying to learn Russian but not doing a very good job at it!

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I’m Puertorican and she is half Irish, half Italian. So our kids will know how to dance, eat and drink!

Post # 31
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Wannabee

I’m African American and my Fiance is Indian, I have dated mostly in my race, with people similiar backgraounds, but interestingly me and my current SO have the most in common and the most fun! both Christian, but neither of us is very very religious…longest strongest relationship I’ve had almost 3yrs…so I think it really depends on the two people involved…

Only thing is… me and his parents don’t speak the same language but I am learning!

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