Post # 1
Ok so here is why I ask, I am recieving my BA in psychology, and I plan to get my masters and most likely my PsyD, my Fiance is a high school graduate, and chose to get a trade instead of go to college, he is an ironworker, and they put him through four years of school through the union, and at the end he becomes a foreman, he is extremely intelligent but he does not enjoy school! But when people here this at school they are always like “oh dont you want someone who is an intellectual equal” or “how are you going to get your kids to college if your husband didnt even go” this is extremely annoying to me and so ignorant in my personal opinion, and what frustartes me even more is if my Fiance were the one with an education and I chose to be a stay at home Mom no one would question in it! DOUBLE STANDARD!!! So this was mostly a vent, but I am also curious how many others are marrying a spouse of a different educational level!!
Post # 3
Fiance has a degree, I do not. I went to some college, but I was also in the military and my education kept getting interrupted by deployments, so I eventually dropped out. I thought about going back to school to finish, but I have a job that pays more than FI’s job, so it doesn’t make sense for me to give up that income when we have a mortgage!
Post # 4
I have a BS, and hubs only has a diploma. He’s almost a master mechanic, which is a major feat for someone his age. He is amazingly good at his job, and in some ways a hell of a lot smarter than me. We can’t really have intellectual discussions about politics and stuff like that though, because he doesn’t care about them (even though I am going to sign him up to vote and force him to do so!). But that’s what I have the bee and facebook and my other friends for
Post # 5
I have a Masters and Darling Husband has a PHD. Everyone asks me when I’m getting my PHD. 🙂
Post # 6
I have my BA and a post grad diploma in my field. Fiance has his Master’s degree.
Post # 7
My Fiance has a BA degree, but I have a BA, a JD and an LL.M. But we are definitely intellectual equals.
Post # 8
@Future Mrs.Schug: FH and I met in law school so we have equal amounts of education. I’ve dated guys in the past with only high school diplomas – no college degrees – and it presented a lot of challenges, at least in my personal experience.
Post # 9
I have a BA and a law degree. My husband has a BA from Devry (which is equal to a 4 year degree but some people treat it like its not).
We’ve never had anyone say anything to us about unequal education. And it doesn’t bother my husband at all. He kind of likes telling people his wife is a lawyer lol.
It is worth mentioning too I think– even though I have a higher degree, he makes more money! lol (he is a corporate accountant)
Post # 10
My Fiance is still in school, but hasn’t even gotten his associates yet. He is a mechanic, as well. I have my masters.
Post # 11
I agree that there’s a double standard! I also think it’s a shame that some people confuse intellectualism with education. Just because your Fiance is not as well educated does not meen he is less intelligent or less intellectual. My Fiance and I are equal in terms of education level, but I have been in serious relationships with less well-educated men in the past, and so I do know what you’re talking about!
(On a completely side note, and even though I’m not minding my own business, don’t bother with the masters if you plan on getting a doctorate (I have a doctorate in psychology, and I did not get a masters first)… it’s a waste of time and money. For the most part, having the masters won’t shorten your time in a doctoral program.)
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Not that it’s the option I would pick, but where are the “I’m a female and have less..” and “I’m a male and have less..” options?
Post # 13
@MrsSl82be: My Fiance is so much smarter than me in certain areas!!! LIke math haha!! He listens when I talk about psychology and new studies, but pretty sure he doesn’t hahaha!
Post # 14
My Fiance is more educated than I am.
People who work in a trade can make a heck of a lot more than people who hold a degree in a number of things. If you know he is intelligent, then I wouldn’t worry about it. It’s so rude that people would say that anyway. I mean, it’s your fiance they are talking about!! Completely out of line.
Post # 15
We have the same level of education. It’s the first time I’ve ever been in a relationship with someone who was as educated as I am, haha! It’s really nice, helps with interesting conversations. When we first started dating and he would say something intellectual, I would say, “You just made me sssoooo hot by saying that.”
Post # 16
Neither of us have a college degree though I did “attend” (using that term loosely, lol) one more semester than he did. Even without a college education, my husband is one of the smartest and most sucessful people I know. I hate that society thinks that you’re nothing without a degree. Couldn’t possibly be more false.