Post # 1
One thing that I’ve learned in the few years that I’ve been married is that it’s important to always be nice to each other!
Sometimes this is easier said than done… like if you’re stressed at work or because of family. It can take some real effort to find your "happy place" and be nice to each other even if you’re not feeling so great yourself. It’s always worth it though, of course.
How about you – are you always nice to your SO? Is it super easy… or is it ever hard? I’m curious to hear how other couples make sure to keep the nice vibes goin’!
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2009 - Catholic ceremony, reception at local armory
I always try to be nice! Although sometimes it works better than others. Mr. M lets work affect his mood towards me much more than I let it affect mine towards him. But when he is cranky I quickly remind him that I was not the one who made him have a bad day. That usually works!
Post # 4
I really make an effort to be nice to my fiance. I’m a big believer in karma-what goes around comes around. And I was in a relationship with a guy a few years ago and I wasn’t so nice. I didn’t like who I was and ultimatley ended the relationship.
But I do have to say, this is the best relationship I have been in and it’s not very hard to try to be nice!
*And Woo Hoo!!! I’m a Bumble Bee*
Post # 5
Wow tessabella76, congrats!! 🙂
Post # 6
For the most part, yes. But, I’ll be the first to admit I’ve got a bit of a ‘tude. I’m half Italian and half Irish…what do you expect? 🙂
Post # 7
I find it easy to be nice to him because he is super nice to me! Plus I know him better then he probably knows himself… LOL so I know when he is in a good mood or not. I.e. I know that when he’s be gone for four days flying that all he wants is to get out of his uniform and eat dinner in front of the tv. So I try not to steer to far from that by making plans away from home, etc. Also, he is just normally an upbeat person. So it makes it super easy for me.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2008 - Imperia Hotel (modern chic hotel)
I try to be nice…
But I find that Im annoyed alot.
Thats cuz Mr.Flamingo is a big big big big big complainer. Did I say BIG?
so, ya… its ain’t all lovey dovey.
We fight, we argue… and we arent always nice.
but at the end of the day… we cuddle, and love eachother.
Post # 9
We aren’t mean to each other, but we do pick and joke and poke fun at each other fairly constantly. Though we’ve been doing it for seven straight years now and it’s just how we are! The only thing I really pick at him about is making sure he wears the appropriate clothing for the appropriate occasion- I’m old school southern in terms of my manners, so most restaurant visits call for business dress clothing (I’m in dresses and skirts about 90% of the time, sooo ) and he’s a nice jeans/sneakers guy so he can get fussy about it!
Post # 10
I try to be nice…but I also happen to be pretty selfish. So the two clash a lot. 🙂 I would say he is definitely nicer to me than I am to him. I’ll have to work on that!
Post # 11
Cute question–and an important one! I tend to have spoiled only child moments and I can be petulant, too. But then I see how sweet and patient he is with me, and my bad mood flies away immediately. His happiness is my biggest priority and vice versa. We just try to remember that we’re on the same team.
Post # 12
We try to be nice to each other, but sometimes we slip and get angry with each other or are sometimes just downright mean, but we both are very quick to cool off and within a few minutes, we’re hugging it out.
Post # 13
one day, early on in our relationship i was being snarky to then Boyfriend or Best Friend and later on i said to myself i treat my friends & coworkers more politely/nice than i the man im in love with and that was so unfair to him.
since then ive tried to be more patient and relaxed (he drives me wonko about so many little things like just changing the channel on the freakin remote-heheh, obviously it still annoys me). i dont always manage it but saying sorry is not something im afraid of saying when i need to
Post # 14
We are nice to each other the majority of the time, but I have to admit we do get a little snippy with each other when we are stressed or grumpy. Overall, though, it feels like we are nicer to each other now than we were during the wedding planning, that’s for sure!
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
ya, this question is interesting, I was just thinking about this bc I really do want to be nicer to FH but I have no patience, like none. And so I get snippy and short with him more than I should and he then gets upset or reacts to me and it can build from there. So I am trying very very hard to have more patience and be nicer (I even sent him a drunken text this weekend promising to be a better fiance, ha!)…
Post # 16
I try to be nice…but sometimes he makes it really hard (and when I’m holding back and holding back, he just seems to keep PUSHING, like he doesn’t realize that it’s bugging me). =/ He’s always nice to me, though.