Post # 17
Yes, we are the same way! He often loads things too closely, however, and the dishes don’t rinse clean. (they have a white soapy build-up from not adequately rinsing). I’ve also worked REALLY hard the last two years to get him to pre-rinse the dishes before loading it. I know that is quite controversial among households, but we have an appliance mechanic in the family who told me it is much, much harder for the dishwasher to get dishes clean if it has to wash off globs of stuck on food.
He is doing much better in that respect, but still not the way I would do it. This is one of those instances where I’ve decided to pick and choose battles when it comes to chores. He’s so helpful around the house that I bite my tongue as best I can!
Post # 18
Exactly. I basically use my dishwasher as an autoclave, to make sure everything’s free of bacteria. Things get pre-rinsed because there’s nothing worse than having leftover bits baked onto the dishes through the dry cycle. (Also, I’m grossed out by thinking about the bits of food sloshing around the dishwasher otherwise!) He’s come over to pre-rinsing in the years we’ve lived together , though — his folks don’t rinse before they load, and I always bite my tongue when I help clean up there!
I’m more OCD about getting the most stuff in there than he is (it’s like Tetris!), but mostly I’m just happy that it gets done. 🙂
Post # 19
We argue about the dishwasher, and we both have bad habits. DH doesn’t rinse stuff and I’m constantly pulling out stuff dirty because of it. I grew up with a weird dishwasher that basically had the top & bottom racks reversed, so I put things in odd places.
Our dishwasher sucks 🙁 It’s too small, and things come out dirty all the time. You can’t put much on the bottom rack, which I tend to do. I used to organize the cutlery, but found that they weren’t getting clean properly because of it. I can’t wait to move and have a proper dishwasher!
Post # 20
I had to laugh when I saw this topic. I once broke up with a guy over loading a dishwasher-although it was he who was flipping out over how I loaded it. He had this thing about pots and pans going on the top rack only and dishes on the bottom, and I had always loaded the pans on the bottom rack, along with the plates and glasses on top. Anyway, he flipped out every freaking time over the damn dishwasher and I decided that I could not live with a man who made such a big deal over something so trivial. Luckilly, i found my guy a few years later. He doesn’t care how the dishwasher is loaded and neither do I. We never fight over how things get done, we just do them and all is well.
Post # 21
Lol at the topic and the picture!!
I dont let him load the dishwasher, it’s just easier and quicker if I do it. If he starts to, I go up and tell him to just relax I’ll do it. Then when he’s gone to sit down i’ll rearrange it how it’s Supposed to be loaded lol!
Post # 22
Glad this is common! hehe. I only get anal when the dishwasher is made to load stuff in a certian place and he doesn’t do it. For example, there are little slots for forks and spoons and he will put them in this big spot all blobbed together where they won’t get cleaned and I’m like, do you really think that’s gonna work? And there’s some things that are too heavy for the top rack. Otherwise, I don’t really care how it goes in.
Post # 23
Yes! Well, I dont think I’m OCD about it, I just do it *right*!! I have a system and everything fits so well the way I do it, and its so random and all over the place when(if) he does it. It makes it harder to put it away when he does it too cause all the same items are just next to each other so you have to go search to find it all. But then if I say some thing about it, he doesnt want to hear it and just goes, if you want me to help, I’m going to do it my way. ughhhhh
Post # 24
I am SO OCD about my dishwasher! I’m also OCD about there only being dishes in one side of the sink so I can actually wash my hands out of the other side if the dishwasher isn’t loaded yet. My poor man 🙂