(Closed) are you paying for the bridesmaids?

posted 6 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You are not required to pay for them, but some brides do it as a nice gesture. I paid for my bridesmaids hair, since I knew they probably didn’t have the money to pay for it themselves. I was really generous with them.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I haven’t planned on paying for that for them, but if I have the money when the times comes, I would probably do that.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you’re giving them the option to decline having their hair/make-up done professionally, you don’t have to pay for them. But, if you’re making them do it, you should pay. 

Personally, I’m paying for my girls but I only have 2.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Not planning on it, only requiring hair to get done though.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Mrs.DBee:  Ditto.  If you require that your girls get their hair professionally done, IMO you should pay for it.  If you give them the option and offer to set up an appointment for them if they want it, I don’t think you have to pay.

I am paying for my four girls to get their hair done, but if they want their makeup professionally done, that’s on them.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hey, we are getting married on the same day!  My best friend is a hair stylist, so we’re going to figure something out for everyone through that.  I think if you require something fancy, you should pay for it, but if you just want them to have their hair back it doesn’t matter.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree that if you are requiring that hair and makeup be done proffessionally you should pay for it.  I am planning on paying for my 2 Bridesmaids to get their hair done, but if they want makeup thats on them.  

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I didn’t get ready with my bridesmaids. I got ready with one bridesmaid present (and my mother and sister) and she came with me and my husband at 1 PM to a park and then when we got back from those pictures my photographer took private pictures of us at the venue and she got ready herself (hair and makeup). I know some of my bridesmaids went to the mall to get hair and makeup done and some did it themselves. The only thing I asked of my bridesmaids was to buy the dress itself and to show up at 4:30 for pictures. 

One of my bridesmaids – who just got married last week – asked me if she could come use my makeup artist at the venue to do her makeup trial for her wedding because she wanted to use her for her wedding and if she had her trial done for my wedding then she’d be killing two birds with one stone, I guess. I understood the logic, but it was a really awkward conversation and I told her no because I wanted to be the only one at my wedding with bridal makeup. 

ETA: The last time I was a bridesmaid I flew into Chicago for the wedding and I did my own makeup but the bride paid for me to get my hair done. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

agree with PP, if you want them to have professional hair and make up you pay. The only thing a bridesmaid should pay for is a dress.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve heard the rule is that if you are requiring it, then you pay for them. But if you aren’t requiring it and they can opt to do it or not, then it’s fine to have them pay their own way. When I was a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding she sent all the bridesmaids an email that went something like, “Hey everyone, I’m having my hair and makeup done at so-and-so salon, if you would like to join me, the price is such-and-such for hair and such-and-such for makeup. I’m booking appointments next week so let me know if you’d like me to book you an appointment too!” I thought it was great way to ask.

 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh yeah, as for what I am actually doing, I decided to just go ahead and pay for all my bridesmaids’ hair and makeup (I planned way ahead and have been saving for this for months, haha!). My reason for doing this is that I have one bridesmaid who has been dealing with unemployment and has had some money troubles and I had a feeling all my others would say yes if I asked them, and I didn’t want her to feel left out, so I just decided to go whole hog and pay for everyone. But you don’t have to do that if you’re not requiring pro hair and makeup!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I paid for my BM’s hair and makeup and my Mother-In-Law as well. I wanted the day of to be a day of pampering for everyone not just me!

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