(Closed) Are you paying for you girls bms dresses?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Are you paying for your bms dresses
    Yes, I am paying for them and getting them a gift : (4 votes)
    10 %
    Yes, I am paying for the dresses in lieu of a gift : (4 votes)
    10 %
    I am paying for dresses for the more financially strapped women : (5 votes)
    13 %
    I am not paying for bm dresses. They are buying their own : (26 votes)
    67 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    509 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Every wedding I’ve been in I’ve had to buy my own and my girls will be buying their own as well. Although I have been toying with the idea to pay for their hair and makeup as part of their gift.

    Post # 4
    Member
    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    My girls paid for their own dresses.

    When I was a bridesmaid I had to pay for my own dress.
     

    Post # 6
    Member
    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @jackndiane: I checked with my BMs before hand about what what they were comfortable paying and then I let them have some say in picking the dress.

    However, I knew when I signed on to be a bridesmaid that I was financially responsible for my dress. I think as long as the dress cost isn’t outrageous and you are conscious of their financial situation you’ll be fine.

    Post # 7
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    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    In my area it’s normal to buy your own Bridesmaid or Best Man dress. However, two girls I really wanted as BMs (one as MOH) I knew couldn’t afford a dress. One was 15 (my cousin) and her mom had to leave work for seirous back surgery so they ahd a lot of financial issues, and the second was goin througha  breakup with her baby’s father and suddenly paying all the bills and taking care of their child herself. I paid for both of their dresses, because it was very important to me that they be in the wedding.

    Post # 8
    Member
    615 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    My bridesmaids will be paying for their own dresses (they get to choose their own, as long as they’re in a particular style/material, so the price they pay is entirely up to them), and when I was a bridesmaid I purchased my own dress.

    I have noticed, though, that this tends to differ based on geographic location. I’ve known of a few brides in both the UK and NZ who said they paid for their bridesmaids’ dresses and that was the norm over there.

    Post # 9
    Member
    567 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I did roll the idea around in my head. But decided against it. I am thinking about getting their shoes though

    Post # 10
    Member
    516 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    As much as I would love to pick up the tab for their dresses, it is just not in the budget.  However, I am letting them have a say and choose a dress that fits their individual budget.  My sister paid for all of the dresses for her bridesmaids, but she had the means to do so.  Every other time I have been a bridesmaid, I had to paid for my bridesmaid dress.

    Post # 11
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    14495 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We paid for the whole bridal party.  It has been a rough financial year for those in our party and we didn’t think it was fair to put any more burdens on them then they already had.  We each did only have two and those two were very important to us, so worth it in our eyes.

    Post # 12
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    7311 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I paid for MOH’s dress, hair, make-up, and overnight accomodations. I feel like being in someone’s wedding should not be a financial hardship. We also paid for everything for my Man of Honor (teen LK) and Mr. LK’s Best Man.

    Edit: We also still purchased gifts for Maid/Matron of Honor, Man OH, and Bridesmaid or Best Man to thank them for all of their love and support. Paying for their wedding clothes and accomodations didn’t feel like a gift because we were requiring them to wear certain things and be at certain places at certain times. And it does fit in anyone’s budget if they choose to make it fit. We opted out of having live music so that we could provide accomodations for our people instead. Your budget is a reflection of your priorities. Our people were our priorities, and we made it work.

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