(Closed) Are you paying for your bridesmaids' dresses or are they?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who is paying?
    I am paying for the dresses in full : (47 votes)
    21 %
    I am paying for part of the dresses : (18 votes)
    8 %
    My bridesmaids are buying their own dresses : (151 votes)
    68 %
    My bridesmaids will be wearing dresses they already own : (5 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    55 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    my goal is for my 6 bridesmaids to buy and find they own dress 🙂  wedding is in june and it’s reaaaaaaaaaaaaallly hard being patient and waiting to see their picks… hopefully it goes well! 😀   i’m sure it will they are all stylish.

    Post # 4
    807 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Mine are paying for their own but they have absolutely free reign to find anything they feel beautiful in. I did give them a general color range to stick with so there’s some kind of cohesion but it’s important to me that they be themselves and find something that they genuinely like enough to wear again.

    Post # 5
    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Two of mine paid for their own, the other two couldn’t afford it (well, one was 15 so I knew that would happen, the other older but just had her first child and was going through a breakup and having to move and losing her job and a TON of other stuff, she also happened to be my MOH), and I paid for their dresses as their gift.

    Post # 6
    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Mine paid for their own dresses and alterations.  I ordered online and they all paid me back, and then I got a bill from customs for the brokerage of $35 each, and I just paid that rather than going after them to pay me again, so I voted that I paid for part.

    Post # 7
    2335 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Around here, it’s pretty traditional for the bridesmaids to purchase their own dresses. It’s part of the responsibility they assume when they assent to being one of your bridesmaids.

    That being said, I did discuss finances with my girls and made sure that I picked out a dress that would work with everyone’s budgets.

    Post # 8
    595 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I also felt bad about asking my BMs to buy for their own dresses, especially as they were long dresses and therefore more expensive. Sadly, I was also broke and could not afford to pay for them myself.

    Post # 9
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    They are paying for their own, but I cleared the budget with them and ended up coming in way below that. And I’m trying to make everyone is at least comfortable with the dress, even if they don’t love it.

    The budget was $150, then I found a seamstress who will make custom dresses for $40/dress for the pattern I want (some modifications). The fabric and notions were $60/dress, so a total of $100/dress. BUT! I think I am working out a trade with the seamstress so it may just be the cost of materials – $60.

    They can wear whatever black shoes they want, whatever jewelry they want. I am paying for hair & makeup.


    Post # 10
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    They will buy their own but we will agree to prices. Any accessories I want them to wear I will buy.

    Post # 11
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I am quietly paying for one. All of my bridesmaid are employed and before we even started shopping I ask them for max budget.

    I am paying for: alterations, shoes(I want then uniform), hair, and  makeup. Almost all my bridesmaid are married and I paid for dresses and travel for their wedding so I don’t think they mind.

    Post # 12
    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I felt bad having my girls pay for them so I said they could pick their own as long as they were floor length and black. Not one of them could find floor length black dresses so I ended up picking the dress and again I felt bad so I kept it under $100 including shipping. They all loved the dresses, they were very flattering and my cousin even wore hers again to a Military ball. 

    They did their own makeup, hair, wore their own shoes and I bought their jewelry.

    Post # 13
    2692 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    They’re paying for their own.  They are only $24.  I made sure to discuss prices with them first.

    Post # 14
    1292 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Originally they were going to buy them. My Bridesmaid or Best Man are my sisters.

    However, they tried on these gorgeous dresses which were out of budget (all on their own) and I decided to buy them myself so there would be no issues w/ money. They actually have no idea, I’m just going to write them checks when I see them next.

    Post # 15
    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’ve paid for my bms dresses. It’s customary where I’m from

    Post # 16
    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I just gave mine dress & shoe colors & told them to wear what they want.

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