(Closed) are you purchasing

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Are you purchasing the BM gowns for your girls?
    yes : (6 votes)
    8 %
    no : (56 votes)
    74 %
    alotting some money towards each one : (3 votes)
    4 %
    yes and the flower girl's dress : (3 votes)
    4 %
    no, only the flower girl's dress : (8 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5262 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I am not paying for them specifically, but I would like to allot a certain amount if I go over $130 or so in the dresses I pick out. 

    In a perfect world, yeah, I’d pay for them, but way too broke!

    Post # 4
    Member
    454 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010 - Signature Events

    I would love to be able to chip in with the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, but there are a million other things eating up our budget!  My mom will be making the flower girl dress, so I’m paying for the fabric and accessories. : )

    Post # 5
    Member
    3331 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would have loved to have been able to do this, but I just didn’t have it in the budget.  Instead, I asked my Bridesmaid or Best Man to buy dresses of their own choosing from JCrew, which they were all able to get on sale.  I felt better about them buying dresses, knowing that none of them had to spend more than $60!  We didn’t have flower girls.

    Post # 6
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    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    My sister is my only Bridesmaid or Best Man, so I bought her dress. Actually, I bought her two dresses, since she couldn’t decide which one she liked best on her. I definitely wouldn’t have been able to pay for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses we had a bigger wedding party, but since it’s just my sister, I got to spoil her!

    Post # 7
    Member
    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    We didn’t buy the dresses or suits for our wedding party. However, we did our best to be as price-conscience as possible.

    In the end, after a lot of shopping around with my girls, I told then they could pick any plum colored dress they wanted, with whatever their own personal budget was, and they could wear any shoes they wanted. In the end, all three of my girls ended up picking the same dress, and they all paid $190 with tax and shipping, but not alterations. So, I didn’t need to feel guilty because they could have picked anything they wanted 🙂

    I think that if you’re really flexible with what you want your girls to wear, there’s no need to feel obligated to foot the bill. In the end, my girls only had to pay for their dresses, travel expenses and their nails the day before (which was optional). They all already had shoes they could wear and did their own hair and make-up.

    Post # 8
    Member
    987 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    We didn’t and I’ve never had my dress purchased for me in all the weddings I’ve been in.  We did buy the groomsmen’s suits but only because I got a killer deal and an additional discount by using my credit card.  I figured it evened out since the guys had to buy their shoes, belts, and shirts (why are men’s shoes so expensive?!) but I bought the girls purses, pashminas, jewelry and hair flowers.  I would love to have just bought everything for them but they didn’t expect it.

    Post # 9
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    123 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I have 9 BMs… there’s just no way that’s in our budget. I am (similarly to jessie516) giving them some parameters in the Watters maids line and letting them pick their own dresses. They’ll be more than $60, but I’m asking them to wear shoes they already own, and hoping that they’ll wear their dresses again since they’re picking out the styles they like the best. I’ll definitely make sure that we take care of our whole bridal party in other ways, however.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1060 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu

    We’ll be buying suits and jr. bridesmaid dress..I don’t have any bridesmaids 🙂

    Post # 11
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    720 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We aren’t….I have other things, both practical and fun, that will be included in their gifts.

    My Future Sister-In-Law bought our dresses for her wedding in February.  It’s a destination wedding in Vegas, so she feels that since we’re flying out to spend the day with her, it’s the least she could do.  I was so touched by her generosity and never expected it.  It was totally not necessary but much appreciated.

    I’ve been in two other weddings and boguht my own dress for both.

    Post # 12
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    144 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    I’m likely going to make my girl’s dress so yes, I’ll be paying for them. I told them already to pick out a long navy high fashion dress they’d never be able to afford and that would be my gift to them. That way my girls match, but don’t, and I’m probably also getting them earrings to go with it. It was the cheapest route and we all get to look stunning that way.

    Post # 13
    Member
    3098 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    I really wish I could have, but it wasn’t in the budget. Luckily, my one and only attendant is super awesome and wouldn’t let me talk her into a cheaper dress I didn’t like as much, just to save her some money!

    Post # 14
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    2395 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I also wish I could have, but no way do we have money for that.  My Maid/Matron of Honor helped me find a White House Black Market dress that everyone loves and can re-wear again… they ended up being $130, which isn’t toooo bad.

    I am buying everyone’s shoes though, because the dresses are short and I am anal about having matching shoes 😉

    Post # 15
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    6571 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    my mom bought my sister in laws (if she were going to buy it herself i would have made her buy a much cheaper one), and my sister’s was only $30, she bought it herself.

    Post # 16
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    326 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    This summer, after making one for myself, I decided to make convertible bridesmaids dresses. I LOVE convertible dresses. That way, each body shape/type can change the dress into something that flatters their figure and stays within their comfort level. I’m buying the fabric and making them myself. A couple girls said they’d pay for it when it’s done, but I’m not expecting it. It was MY choice to go this route, therefore I think it should be MY responsibility to take care of this part.

    If you choose something that’s outside of your girls budgets, I think you should help. But most people understand that if your in a wedding, part of the responsibility of being in the bridal party is buying your own stuff! (Atleast that’s how my circle of friends/family works!)

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