Post # 61
You seriously have no idea how much comfort it brings me knowing that moms like me are moving forward with expanding their family, despite the state of the world – and not regretting it. I really want my kids to be close. Especially since my sister and I are a decade apart. I want them to grow together and the thought of that not happening hurts my heart. I appreciate you saying that things will get better – sometimes I feel a bit hopeless in that area. I cried the other day because my son is 2 and he’s not in daycare and has no interaction with other kids. I work full time and I’m in school so I try to spend as much learning time with him but I get so upset and concerned that he’s probably falling behind with his learning and social skills. I called my mom and started crying so hard and she just had to remind me that things will get better. It helps being reminded of that. Thank you.
Oh yes, my SIL has had so many sad pregnancy losses. She’s now 38 and in the first trimester with what we hope will be a viable pregnancy and she just flew internationally and partied over the holidays. Like, really? So much silent judgment.
Congrats on your pregnancy! I need to relocate OUT of the South and move where you are!! Our rates are surging because of churches, gyms, weddings – it’s insane and so upsetting especially since I’ve been tucked away in the house for a solid year now.
I remember you mentioning how you caught Covid while being masked somewhere on the boards! So scary!! Honestly, I haven’t done the necessary research yet. I’ve only heard what you summarized which is the potential benefits outweight the risks. Honestly, that doesn’t give me much comfort right now since that statement’s not very scientific and to my knowledge, there hasn’t been any tests on pregnany women. With that being said, I’m REALLY hoping that by the time it’s time for us to TTC, things will get better in terms of the data and vaccine distribution / availability so I can make an informed decision.
What a great point! My coworker took a similar approach!! She told me that FOMO was what kept her from getting pregnany before and that now she was homebound, the decision to get pregnant was made easy for her.
Post # 62
UPDATE: Thank you for all of your responses. I tried to reply to everybody because all of your comments really helped to put me (somewhat) at ease. You have no idea! My husband and I discussed and we’ll start to TTC around my son’s 3rd birthday this year in October versus in June. This will hopefully give more time for the vaccinations to start to do their work in bringing the number of cases down and give me some time to calm my nerves about plunging into pregnancy head first during a pandemic. I appreciate all of the support and congrats to all of the wonderful mothers and mothers to be on this thread!!
Post # 63
It’s good to remember that the vast majority of pregnant women and their babies will be fine they catch covid during pregnancy. It isn’t like rubella or zika that causes birth defects (thank god) and flu can be just as dangerous for pregnant women, if not more so. It’s just that there’s so much covid about. But as the vaccination programs increase and we go into summer, things should look a lot better. I’m comfortable ttc during the pandemic but it’s just the proximity of the potential vaccine that makes me hesitate, whether I should wait and take it first. I’m not comfortable taking it during pregnancy until there is more data but I would take it while breastfeeding, so for me it’s a before or after thing. But it isn’t AS dangerous to pregnant women as many people believe. I think we will go ahead with ttc next month. They predict the US and the UK will reach herd immunity by Autumn which makes me confident.
ETA My toddler will likely be going back to daycare while I’m pregnant and he’s bound to pick up all kinds of germs that would be dangerous during pregnancy, so I guess there is risk everywhere…
Post # 64
I’ll be honest, having a pandemic baby was scary at first. We couldn’t go anywhere, my husband couldn’t come to my doctors appointments and later to LO’s appointments. But, because he;s been working from home, it’s been amazing to have this time together. Instead of him leaving for work at 6am and getting home at 6:30 or 7pm, which was his normal routine, he doesn’t have a commute and spent time with us in the mornings, on lunch breaks, and the evening. He was able to get so much more time with the baby as an infant while still working. It was a real silver lining in a tough situation. I missed baby and me yoga and new moms groups and all of that, but I wouldn’t trade access to those over my husband getting so much one on one time with our first child!
Post # 65
this is exactly how we are feeling right now. Our baby is 7 weeks old, our province is in lockdown, and it’s the dead of winter so -10C outside. Any one of those things would keep us at home anyways and we are getting them all out of the way at the same time.
Post # 66
No, we didn’t put it off. Currently almost 21w pregnant.
I was actually just fence sitting, and more in the “one and done” camp already…but ultimately decided my holdup was work and that I would scale back with my business and have another baby. Covid didn’t come into play at all for me. When we were TTC with our first every second of every day on thenews was consumed by Zika…and the vast majority of people were all nutted up over it yet also the vast majority of people weren’t even affected. I firmly believe that there will always be something. I remember back to being TTC with my first, and my husband travels internationally for work. I literally flew to Mexico during my fertile window to be with him while we were TTC….while everyone was up in arms over Zika.
I know many people who have been pregnant prior to, and during, and given birth since Covid started. I think for those who gave birth in the very early months it was stressful – but now people just seem to be going on. I’m due in June, and while I don’t think the hospital policies will change at all by then (even with the vaccine) we already have my parents/sister as part of our bubble and I will feel comfortable still seeing them. I’m mid-30’s, DH is late 30’s….if we were going to do it, it was going to be now.
Post # 67
I’ve just come across this thread and really felt the need to contribute. We decided to push ahead with our plans to conceive in spite of COVID as we figured there will always be a reason not to have a child, I.E finances, work, house needing work ETC. There’s never a perfect time and I’ve realised you have children to enhance your life and to add to/grow your family which you should just do when you want to. Also, I don’t wish to sound crude but during quarantine is probably a good time as people are home such a lot and it’s easier to get time together with your husband/boyfriend/partner.
Post # 68
Honestly it has been pretty good timewise (I’m 31 weeks). The only thing that sucks is the fear of getting Covid while pregnant and not getting to see family, but for those TTC now with vaccines more accessible, you might have a different experience 🙂
Post # 69
It is a worry but as long as you take the proper precautions im sure you’ll be absolutely fine. Congratulations 🎉