(Closed) Are you putting your actual planned start time on your invitation?

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What time are you putting on the invite

    The actual time the ceremony is scheduled to start

    I am padding it by 15 minutes

    I am padding it by more than 15 minutes

    Other - explanation below

  • Post # 17
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We’re putting the actual time on our invites but we have time to wait if need be. Our ceremony is set to start at 5:30 and our cocktail hour will begin at 6:00. Our ceremony is only going to take 10-15 minutes long so even if we start 15-20 minutes late, we’ll still be right on time for the rest of the wedding festivities. 

    Post # 18
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think it depends on your guests and how punctual they are. In my circles people are rarely early to weddings and I have never been to a wedding that started at the time it was supposed to. There was a thread about this a while back and some bees seemed very offended by the idea of padding a the time.. but if i want my wedding to actually start at 4pm, i have to put 3.30 on the invite. And even if i do that it still probably wont start til 4.30 because people i know just dont come on time!

    Post # 19
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    Helper bee

    I voted to pad the time, but not seat until we are ready to start.  Two of my friends got married this year. 

    The first, we were driving to a venue that I had never been to before and only knew of one way to get there.  That route was closed due to construction, so Fiance and I were frantically trying to pull up a map on my phone and figure out another way to get there and got completely lost.  I was set to be early, but by the time we actually got there, we were 5-10 minutes late and they had started exactly on time.  I felt horrible.

    The second, Fiance was in the wedding and I got there about 30 minutes early, and they started about 15-30 after the time on the invitation.  They had the bar open before the ceremony though, so everyone just got a drink and socialized til we were called to be seated (although there was plenty of seating in the bar area too, so no one was required to stand).

    Sometimes late guests aren’t late on purpose, things happen, and I don’t think an extra 15 minutes is going to bother anyone.  They probably won’t even notice unless you start later than 15 minutes.

    Post # 20
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Perhaps if I pad the time… i will not be one of the people late to my wedding!

    Post # 21
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    Busy Beekeeper

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    @HisIrishPrincess:  LOL. i think if i am on time, my friends will be confused!

    Post # 22
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We are doing the actual time, but its a destination wedding and the majority of our guests will be staying in the venue, if not its within walking distance. If anybody is going to be late it will probably be me as the TOWN is smaller and I will have to travel to do my hair and makeup.

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I am a firm believer in the padded time… Most people I know run on CP time, and I mean to EVERYTHING!! So the last thing I want is someone sneaking in the back during my vows… But I did like the idea another bee had of simply putting that “seating” begins proptly at {insert time here}

     

     

    My wedding is on a friday night as well, and to have people rush home after work to change and then make it downtown is just asking for trouble.

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I am a firm believer in the padded time… Most people I know run on CP time, and I mean to EVERYTHING!! So the last thing I want is someone sneaking in the back during my vows… But I did like the idea another bee had of simply putting that “seating” begins proptly at {insert time here}

     

     

    My wedding is on a friday night as well, and to have people rush home after work to change and then make it downtown is just asking for trouble.

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    My rabbi suggested we pad the time by 30 minutes for the invitation. We’re asking people to drive about an hour and a half and we wanted to give them some wiggle room!

    Post # 24
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    My sister’s wedding was slated to start at 4pm which is what was printed on the invites. She got married in old church that did not have a changing room so she had to wait in the limo outside the church until it was time to start. At 4:10 she and all of the bridesmaids got out of the limo and started lining up. About 5 cars pulled in one right after the other and hustled inside. She was so upset that her grand entrance was ruined. I felt so bad!

    ALways pad your time! It’s your day and if people can’t wait an extra 15 min then poo poo on them!

    Post # 25
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I was planning on asking this, so glad I searched instead! I think, based on comments, we’re going to put down 5:30 as a start time and then start promptly at 6pm. If I mentally plan on starting at 5:30, too, hopefully that means we’ll all be on time!

    Post # 26
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We’re padding ours by 10 minutes.  But it’s outdoors, which means people will be walking from their cars, and if anyone’s late it’s a lot more disruptive.  (i.e. they can’t just wait outside).  Hopefully everyone will be seated and no one will be pissed.

    Post # 27
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We are putting the actual start time.  And if people aren’t there that is not my problem.  I am SOOOOOO annoyed by people who run late.  My FI’s cousin got married last year and she told us that the rehearsal started 45 earlier than it actually did.  Since my Fiance and I are EXTREMELY punctual, we showed up 15 minutes early, so we had to wait 1 hour for the damn thing to start.  I literally have never been so enraged in my life.  And we spent an hour waiting on her to get there.  It was over a year ago, and I still have some choice words for that girl!  I wouldn’t do that to my guests.  The wedding starts at 4:30, and if you are late, that is your problem. 

    Post # 28
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

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    @bells: I agree with you about knowing your guests making a big difference.

    This is a good thread, I hadn’t even thought about this. FI’s brother and SIL are perpetually late to absolutely everything. They were an hour late for their parents’ 50th anniversary dinner, and an hour late for the anniversary party the day after, and then left nearly an hour before everyone else did. The party and dinner had both been planned and set for over a year, and they had no valid excuse. They lived closer to the venue than anybody else who attended. Nobody ever expects them to be on time for anything. I have half a mind to pad the time only on their invitation, but it sounds a bit rude. Not quite sure how to go about it. Everyone else in the family is usually pretty on-time for stuff. But if FI’s brother is a groomsman (he hasn’t picked any yet), that could really mess things up.

    Or maybe I should just accept it as a quirk of my new relatives! “If M and C show up, they’re gonna be uber late.”

    Post # 29
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I am using the actual start time. Most of the guests are local so they shouldn’t have a problem getting to the ceremony on time.

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