Post # 30
@unixfairy: I put the EXACT time down and we started at that EXACT time…the ONLY person who showed up late (a half hour late) was late because they forgot to write down the correct time. I feel no matter what time you put…something is going to happen that someone will be late.
Post # 31
We put the actual time. I’ve always (and guest I’ve always seen at weddings) showed up 15-20 minutes early for weddings, so would be annoyed if I had to sit and wait for 35 minutes for a wedding to start because they were behind and/or starting late.
For the reception, we showed up on time too. I had a ton of people tell me they were so appreciative of it. People told me they always feel like the wedding party shows up way late, and their straving and bored by the time the wedding party actual gets there and goes through all the reception events.
Post # 32
I put our exact start time on the invitation, and we started on time.
I didn’t notice anyone come in late either, except the fiance of one of my bridemaids was coming up the stairs at the same time I was. It was so funny. He was whispering “So sorry, so sorry, you look beautiful, sorry!” I giggled the whole way up the stairs.
Post # 33
Don’t make exceptions for people who aren’t following the rules of ettiquette (and don’t make those who follow the rules of ettiquette suffer). List the actual ceremony time. If people come late – everyone notices – and it only negatively impacts them in the eyes of everyone else. Don’t allow yourself to have negatively placed on you by not starting the ceremony “on time”.
Post # 34
Great post…I was asking myself the same question last week. I think I will pad the invite time by :15…and include the correct time on the programs 🙂
Post # 35
Yes and from what I have heard and read, it is the proper way to word them with the correct starting time. Everyone knows to arrive 15-30 mins before the wedding (and if they don’t, there will be family/friends reminding them who do know that) so they can get a seat before the ceremony starts. Most people find it incredibly rude and deceptive to list a completely different time on the invite. Also, the time listed is when the bride makes her entrance (some people don’t know that). Either way, I have never attended a wedding that was late.
Post # 36
All weddings I’ve been to have been exactly on time. Ours <hopefully> is too!
Post # 37
I’m a perpetually early person and get so angry at things starting late. I would not be happy with a couple purposely starting later than they state. Its not my fault other people can’t be on time.
Post # 38
I put the correct time on ours, but if we start a little late, then we do. I want to start on time though because my grandparents are traveling that day (it was an unfortunate conflict with a big trip they have been planning for a long time) and it’s important to me that they can be there for the whole ceremony and pictures.
Post # 39
We were married and listed the actual start date on our invitations.
That day I was such a ball of nerves and so worried about timeline that we were all ready when it was ceremony time.
When we were walking from the bridal suite to the front of the church to line up for the processional several guests saw me. Some even stopped to say hello and comment on my dress. It was very upsetting. Luckily I had a few minutes to recoup waiting outside while my BMs walked down the isle before I had to go in. This may not be a problem for many, it just depends on how your ceremony venue is set up.
I don’t think padding it by 15 minutes is needed, but I wish I had waited another 5 before actually starting.
Post # 40
Know your guests. Um, not to dog my folks, I’m an immigrant, they don’t come to weddings on time. Usually they are about 15mins late so I shall put that in the invites. But what many of my friends do is to tell folks that it’s so and so on the invite but ceremony starts at so and so.
Post # 41
We put our ceremony start time. I just hope people plan ahead for spring break beach traffic, but since our ceremony isn’t until 6:30 the traffic coming onto the beach shouldn’t be too bad.
Post # 42
I am going to put the actual start time since I show up early to weddings as it is.
Post # 43
@unixfairy: I will pad about 15 minutes to ensure everyone has arrived. I am not concerned about any of my guest being early.
Post # 44
Maybe 5 – 10mins would be the most ‘padding’ I would put. But generally I think for something like a wedding people will be on time.