(Closed) Are you staying the night with FI the night before the wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Nope. We too have lived together for almost three years but he will be staying with one of his best men and I get the house to myself. No reason other than for fun and we don’t want to see each other the day of the wedding until I come down the aisle. 

Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We didn’t but only because my Maid/Matron of Honor and another good friend of mine needed a place to crash so they stayed at the apartment with me and my husband stayed at his parents. It would have been too crowded with us all at the apartment.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

We did, we had a suite at Mandalay Bay and had far too much fun the night before the wedding. After living together so long it was weird to not spend the night together.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Probably. we are renting a villa and will be staying in the master bedroom. If he wants to sleep elsewhere for the nigHT I’d be fine with it though. We haven’t really discussed it, so I’m just assuming lol.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Yes, we’re getting married at a lodge/B&B in Vermont and staying in one of the rooms there. We’ll be staying together the nights before and the night after the wedding. We’ve lived together for 2 years and we’re traveling together; it feels pretty natural to stay together too.

Post # 7
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Honey bee

I stayed home and DH stayed with his sister. He liked the tradition and we had totally different morning schedules, so it was kind of nice to just do our own thing and make the day a little different from the usual. We didn’t do a first look either so the first time he saw me after a day apart was walking down the aisle, so that was pretty cool too. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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edobbs87 :  We live together so stayed together the night before.  He drove over to the venue earlier than I did, and we got ready separately, so there was some time ahead of our first look to get all excited about seeing each other again!  🙂

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

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edobbs87 :  Yep, though we didn’t “sleep” together at the time, we’d been living together several years already.  Seemed silly to hide from each other.  We also held our reception in part before our wedding, so had been around each other all day long anyway.  And did a first look.  We’re not superstitious enough to think we can’t see each other before our wedding.  Do what works for you – the day was no less special.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

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edobbs87 :  We live together, so yes we are. 🙂

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

That said, we are getting ready separately and will have a first look.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Yeah probably. We’ll probably get ready together, too. But we’re both guys so traditional wedding practices aren’t much of a priority. 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Although we lived together before the wedding, I spent the night before the wedding in a hotel, while DH (FI at the time) stayed at home. I just wanted everything to be a surprise – my hair, the dress, etc. While we had lived together and it might not have been a big deal, we wanted to MAKE it a big deal. IMO, it was well worth it waiting to see each other until I walked down the aisle.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Nope. Been together almost 9 years and lived together almost 3 but spending night apart.

As a PP said, it’s a HUGE deal to us regardless of living together prior. 🙂

Being apart the night before adds to that IMO

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

We stayed together the night before at his sisters house. It was nice waking up next to the person I was about to spend the rest of my life with. We had a very small wedding so we actually got ready together. It made it really fun and intimate. 

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