Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I just learned about the tradition that the bride and groom are supposed to spend the night before the wedding apart. I guess because it’s bad luck to see the bride the morning of the wedding, but it bums me out a little! Obviously I don’t have to follow whatever old wives tales say are good/bad luck, but it’s fun to follow the little traditions.
My fiancé and I have lived together for 2.5 years and have very rarely spent the night apart. I like falling asleep spooning and holding hands under the pillow. I think an abrupt change won’t help with the wedding-day stress and insomnia (…I say as I type this on my phone in bed at 4am LOL)
PS This thread has nothing to do with sex, just the sleeping part! 🙂
Post # 3
@aggie2010: I am spending the night apart from him b/c we live about an hour away from my parent’s and I will need to be up early for hair/makeup (all happening at my parent’s house) + I have guests from out town and bridesmaids who will need a place to sleep and our apt. is not big enough! I invited them to all stay at my parent’s as well. I say do what you want, tradition or not – who cares!
Post # 4
We live together, and spent the night together. It was really cool to wake up next to him in the morning, have breakfast, then not see him until I was all dressed up and prettified.
Post # 5
My Darling Husband and I live together and did spend the night before the wedding apart – but it’s totally not necessary – if you don’t want to do it, don’t! You should do whatever is going to give you the best start to your day. I stayed the night at my parents house with my Maid/Matron of Honor and a couple of other BMs, they were all girls I used to have sleepovers with back when I was a kid, it was a lot of fun and was relaxing being with all of them. But I certainly don’t really believe that whether or not you stay with your Fiance the night before is going to have any actual effect on your marriage, obviously it’s just asilly superstition, one you should feel free to ignore if following it isn’t what would make you happiest!
Post # 6
@aggie2010: haha I’ve been with my partner 11 years and been by his side every night except when I was in having my youngest son, ( he even stayed in hospital when I had my oldest son) This puts a downer on my plans to because
ITS BAD LUCK TO LEAVE FROM YOUR HOUSE so I have to find somwhere to stay with our 2 boys, think he will be staying with best man and ill be staying at his mums.
Post # 7
I don’t believe any of the bad luck mumbo jumbo. Luck isn’t going to make or break your marriage. I’m most comfortable and at ease when I’m sleeping with my Fiance. Do whatever makes you the most comfortable and happy! Just make sure your Fiance doesn’t care either way, some guys will surprise you about traditions they are hell bent on following!
Post # 8
@aggie2010: I think it adds to the excitement and fun of the wedding my SO and I live together and I want that feeling of anxiety and tradition. just my opinion
Post # 9
We live together but will be spending the night apart. Nothing to do with bad luck, I just thought it would be nice for the first time he sees me on our wedding day to be me walking down the aisle. Plus I always miss him so much when we’re apart and I always get excited knowing when I’m going to see him again!
I really do think its personal preference though! If you don’t want to be apart then I think it’s also romantic to wake up together one last time before you both say “I Do!”
Post # 10
I don’t put any weight in “bad luck.” People generally disregard it in daily life (ever break a mirror?) but for some reason everyone feels the need to follow it for their wedding. Darling Husband and I spent the night before our wedding together because that’s what we do other nights
Post # 11
We’re staying together the night before, neither he or I are keen to separate. My sister was horrified that we were not sticking to tradition, but I will get NO sleep if he’s not beside me.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We spent the night before our wedding together, in our suite, getting a couples massage, enjoying the steam shower and jacuzzi tub, and having a leisurely dinner. It was lovely. Then we got up together in the morning, enjoyed breakfast, and kissed goodbye so that he could go meet up with a group of our guests for a round of sporting clays while I headed back to the suite to enjoy a few minutes of quiet before my hotties arrived.
Post # 13
Of course we are! In our nice hotel… it’s mostly pragmatism, as we’ll be staying far from home and don’t want to buy another room… but I’d rather be with him anyway… hang out together with snacks, maybe champagne, I’m hoping to have a little fun the morning of as well.
We are about as non-superstitous as they come. I suspect we won’t be separating until we have reason to (time to get ready, in the afternoon.)
Post # 14
The only reason we are spending the night apart is because our wedding is out of state and we don’t want to spring for the extra night of hotel so we are staying at our parent’s houses. We will be seeing each other before the ceremony anyways for pictures.
Post # 15
@aggie2010: i’m getting married on a saturday. i am going to stay with my mom a few nights before the wedding. friday night my mom and i are sleeping at the hotel. i will see my Fiance at the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner then not again until we do our first look.
Post # 16
We were together. We did almost everything together the day of other than getting ready together. We don’t believe these old wives tales.