(Closed) Are you staying the night with your fiancé the night before?

posted 7 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Well?
    We live together and are spending the night together : (114 votes)
    32 %
    We live together and are spending the night apart : (184 votes)
    52 %
    We live separately and are spending the night together : (8 votes)
    2 %
    We live separately and are spending the night apart : (46 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 17
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    1668 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We’re spending the night apart… but only because we’re getting married in my hometown and I’m going to stay with my parents and he’s going to visit with his family in the hotel the night before. I think if we were getting married from where we live we’d just spend the night together.

    Post # 18
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    514 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @aggie2010:  We are having a Destination Wedding and he will be staying at his parents rental house all week and I will be staying at mine. We have lived together for three years, so I am used to sleeping in the same bed, too. If you want to, there is nothing wrong with that, but I think that it’s sweet leaving each other the night before and knowing that the next time you see each other, you will be very close to husband and wife!

    Post # 19
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    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We will be spending the night before together. I hate spending the night apart and I know I won’t sleep well if we aren’t together. I think we will get up and eat breakfast, give eachother our wedding gifts and then go our separate ways to get ready 🙂

    Post # 20
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    1293 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2018

    We are having a wedidngmoon, so I am certainly not paying for 2 separate rooms. We will be together 🙂 He is also helping me pick my dress and I’m sure will be helping me get ready.

    Post # 21
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    7646 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We spent the night apart. He slept at his parents and I slept at a hotel with my Maid/Matron of Honor.

    Post # 22
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    4304 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We spent the night together and it was incredible!

    Post # 23
    Member
    57 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    We got married in Vegas, so we slept together in the hotel room the night before. We did not live together before marriage. 

    Post # 24
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    747 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We live together but will spend the few nights leading to the wedding apart. We are moving into my grandparent’s house and out of respect to them will not sleep together in that house until we are married. It’s going to be really hard because we don’t sleep well apart.

    Post # 25
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    1278 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I didnt stay apart from him to follow the tradition necessarily, but we did stay apart. Our friends got us 2 suites at a fancy hotel on the strip. I had my 7 girls stay w me in my room and Darling Husband stayed w his 4 groomsmen in his room. After fhe rehearsal dinner we all camd back to the girls’ room and hung out, had a couple drinks, then around midnight the boys went to their room and we went to sleep. It was fun and I am glad we did it that way but not everyone does. 

    Post # 26
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    1130 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We live together but we’re moving and the wedding is in the place we’re moving to. We’re transitioning to our own place but staying with my parents (not ideal, but whatever) until we sign for our own place. We’re both staying there, in the same bed.

    Post # 27
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    3449 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Yes, we live separately, but we will be staying together the nights leading up to the wedding. Our bridal suite actually has 2 master bedrooms, so we’re going to separate after breakfast and get dressed/beautified in our respective rooms so that there is still some element of surprise at the ceremony. As far as I know, we are not doing a “first look.”

    Post # 28
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    1409 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    We live together and will be spending the night apart. 

    Post # 29
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    1060 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @aggie2010:  We moved into our new home a few months before the wedding. At first I thought I would want to be traditional and have him spend the night at his parents/old house (The girls were getting ready at our house on wedding day) but a few weeks before the wedding we decided to spend the night together in our home.

    It was honestly SO comforting. I had such a great sleep and even though we had to wake up at 6:30 am we both got up before the alarm and just cuddled for a little bit, talking about how excited we were for the day ahead etc.

    I 100% attribute my ‘calmness’ all morning to being able to have those moments with him. I thought I would be a nervous wreck but was so chilled out!

    Post # 30
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    1234 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We live together but I spent the night with one of my bridesmaids in the hotel where the wedding would be held and he stayed at home. We were still texting and talking on Facebook all night though haha!

    Post # 31
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    5005 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2018

    We don’t live together, but I’m hoping we can spend that night together. He gets really traditional at the strangest moments, so he might refuse.

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