Post # 1
I walked into work today to begin my new promoted position at work (yay!!) and I see my soon-to-be married name all over the place! My email, desk, phone… I was kind of upset/happy at the same time. I don’t get married for another 2 months and 27 days (but who’s counting..!!) and I really wanted the name change to come after my wedding when I’m officially married, but it was also sort of exciting to see… I asked my boss why my maiden name isn’t still listed and why my new name is in our system already?
She explained to me the process of changing my name on my email, ID, phones, internal systems, etc at my work is a lengthy process and that she has to do it through another one of our offices that is located in another state. My new boss advised that she didn’t want to have to change over my maiden name now and then two and half months later go through all of the paper work again to change it to my married name..
I still don’t know how I feel about it.. I guess my FH and I already live together, we’ve already been intimate together, so I guess I’m already breaking other rules anyhow?
It made me curious..how many of you out there are superstitious with pre-wedding do’s and don’ts??
Post # 3
Some things. My friend calls us the “his last name” all the time and I don’t mind. But when I wanted a mug with an initial, I picked my first name instead of his last since its not mine yet.
But we’re doing a first look and I’m not superstitious about that.
Post # 5
@Chelwilly: That would make me nervous… I’d probably tape my maiden name over it (where possible) for the time being! LOL.
Post # 6
I am honestly not worried about those superstitions at all. We will be spending the night together the night before the wedding, we will probably have breakfast and lunch together too! First look we aren’t decided on yet but would have no problems with. I’m not changing my name so not affected by that.
Post # 7
I guess we are to a degree superstitious over pre wedding stuff – I had pictures taken of me in my dress over the weekend taken with his camera and it was an ordeal because we needed to burn them onto a disc using his laptop and we were both all “I’m not looking!” and “I know you’re not going to look”! LOL
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House
He’s from the South, and there’s a lot of superstition surrounding wedding stuff…so there’s a few things. I’m pretty traditional as well.
We’re not getting married in 2013, partially because it’s ’13…seems silly, but hey. No first look, he wants zero involvement in the dress shopping, etc etc.
Post # 9
I’m not, but that’s super weird your work just did that without asking for their own convenience. It’s not your name yet.
Post # 10
The only thing I was superstitious about was not using any wedding gifts until after the wedding! (because if the wedding gets called off you have to return all gifts, but you can’t return something you used, so by using it you’re basically GUARANTEEING that your wedding will be called off and you’ll be in a giant pickle with your unreturnable-but-need-to-be-returned gifts). DH was so mad at me — we had this beautiful set of pots and pans, all nonstick and thick metal with rubberized handles and lids … and I wouldn’t even open the box for months. We had to keep using our crappy ones!!
Post # 11
@Chelwilly: ARGH! I wouldn’t like this!
Post # 12
Oops I spelled supersticious wrong! Should be a C instead of a T. haha ignore my typo!
Post # 13
@Blonde17Jess: Yeah really!! You’re getting married on my birthday by the way!
Post # 14
@Chelwilly: My name is already changed too. I am not superstituous. A marriage will either work, or it won’t. It doesn’t matter if you “wear blue” or “sleep separately the night before.” I’d rather focus on tangibles like trust, communication, and intimacy.
Post # 15
@Chelwilly: Fun! It should be a good day!
Post # 16
I wouldn’t say I’m superstitious. I don’t believe we will have bad luck or anything if any of these things happen but:
I want the first time he sees me on our wedding day to be when I am walking down the aisle, and I don’t want him to see my dress before the big day.