Post # 1
I’ve read somewhere that you are suppose to feed your officiant and their wife/husband…
is this true?? i really don’t want to for a 15 minute ceremony because it is so expensive.
i’m already feeding 5 vendors, my (dj, 2 photographers, and 2 cinematographers)
Post # 3
We’re inviting our officiant and his wife and child, but he’s traveling over 5 hours to come and do this for us so I’d feel terrible not doing it. I think it depends on if it’s your church leader or a closer family friend vs a JOP or someone hired solely to do your wedding.
Post # 4
Everything I’ve ever read says yes. But apparently they sometimes decline, and disappear after the ceremony. Either way, I think that offering them a meal is the normal thing to do.
Post # 5
We invited our officiant and his wife, and they both came and ate.
Post # 6
We are inviting ours too. But our wedding is out of town for everyone, and its my moms boss so thats another reason too!
Post # 7
We invited ours (and his wife) to both the rehearsal dinner and the reception.
Post # 8
I would say yes. But it’s totally up to you. Is your ceremony and venue at the same place? It would be nice to feed your officiant, but it won’t be the end of the world if you don’t. It’s more standard to feed him/her at the rehearsal dinner since they will be there directly before the meal. At least this is what I’m used to. My brother is marrying us so I’m gonna feed him! 🙂
Post # 9
well to feed him at the rehearsal dinner would be much cheaper than during the reception at $100 a plate, but his wife is conducting the rehearal since he has a wedding to do that night. i have been emailing her back and forth about the ceremony wordings… so this would mean having to invite them both? he is just pureply hired to do the officiating. we don’t know him through a church or anything.