(Closed) Are you supposed to keep BM dresses?

posted 11 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I don’t think any brides really expect their Bridesmaid or Best Man to keep their dresses.  I agree with the others, you can donate them to any organization that accepts this type of dress for girls to wear to prom, or any Goodwill or Salvation army where some girls may go looking for a dress for a formal occasion. 

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

From a bride’s perspective, I really didn’t expect my bridesmaids to keep their dresses forever, but I was definitely hurt when all three of them left their dresses in a soggy heap at my house the morning after the wedding. It was like they couldn’t wait to dump them! I wish it had been handled with more grace. I thought the dresses were pretty. So I guess my advice would be that you don’t have to keep it, but also don’t throw it in the bride’s face that you aren’t keeping it.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Forgot to mention – I also heard of a bridesmaid keeping the dress and using it to make the satin edge of a baby blanket for the bride when she has her first child. I always thought that was a very sweet idea, so if the bride is very sentimental and you are crafty that’s one idea for what to do with the dress!

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I’ve donated mine. The first one was floor-length and red and gave me a rash, so I doubt the bride expected me to keep it. The second I’m still thinking about because I love the dress, but the color is a little weird. The third I will be dropping in the donation bin the second the wedding is over!

I don’t think you need to feel any guilt over donating or selling bm dresses… probably the bride will never know, and most likely she won’t really care. I’d be a little disappointed if my girls want to get rid of their dresses afterwards, since I’m trying so hard to pick something rewearable (black & ivory tea length), but I won’t be upset or hurt!

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

i won’t expect my bms to keep their dresses. . .um i would hope they love the dresses enough, but a good bridesmaid never really complains about the dress unless it doesn’t fit, theirs damage to it and they haven’t worn it for the ceremony yet, they altered it incorrectly. . .i didn’t keep my flower girl dress OR my bridesmaids dress. . .the flower girl dress was donated and my bridesmaids dress i returned (it wasn’t altered, no stains/stentch, barely worn) because it was too see through and hoochie and the color and pattern was just awful. . .so i returned it for store credit.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee

I’ve been a bridesmaid a half a dozen times.  One dress is still in my closet because it is beautiful and can be re-worn for black tie events.  The other dresses were donated.

No bride has ever asked me what I did with the bridesmaid dress from their wedding and I haven’t informed them I donated the dress.  

 

Post # 24
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

I donate. 🙂

 

Post # 25
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I donated my bm dresses last year to a local women’s shelter.  They btw alter dresses for the women too and if they have a special occasion or family celebration I hope these dresses will make somebody smile!

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Since you didn’t pay for it, I say donation is a good idea. I don’t see any reason to keep them around if you really don’t have a use for it. But really – I think its a “don’t ask, don’t tell” sort of thing. 

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’ve donated my really old ones to our local high school drama department-hoop skirts (from prom in the 80’s…and a couple of weddings) to crinolines-dress styles change so much that they look outdated. The more current ones, I donated to an organization at our high school who outfits kids for prom who otherwise couldn’t afford a dress to go.

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