(Closed) Are you supposed to say something to people who RSVP no?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2490 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I personally wouldn’t say anything to them. Next time I see them I might casually say sorry that they can’t make it (if they don’t say something first), but I wouldn’t say anything to make a big deal out of it.

Post # 5
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@orchidaloha:  +1. I’d just mention it the next time you talk to them.

Post # 6
1696 posts
Bumble bee

@FortiesFlare:  One of the reasons for formal written invitations and formal written replies, is to keep touchy issues like declining, and like being declined, at arm’s length. So no, you do not make a point of responding.

If you happen to see the other person socially in the next week, and if it feels comfortable to mention it, then you might say something like “we’ll miss you on the twenty-second, but we know you’re there with us in spirit; and would you like some sugar in your tea?” Then again, you might not: the last thing you want to do is inspire your friend to come up with some sort of explanation or excuse.

Post # 7
911 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

@aspasia475:  Can you please write a book? I love all your posts. Seriously.

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