(Closed) Are You Supposed to Send Invitations for Rehearsal Dinner?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Normally I would say no but thats a lot of people for a rehearsal dinner. It may be easier to send an invite or even an evite then make sure all 37 have the details. 

Post # 4
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

My Mother-In-Law hosted our rehearsal dinner and send paper invites to our 35 or so guests (immediate family, grandparents, people in the wedding party + dates). It worked fine. However, I’ve also been in wedding where I just got an email about the rehearsal dinner, so really, whichever you’d prefer. πŸ™‚

Post # 5
Bee
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

I dunno what the etiquette is, but we invited about 45 people to our rehearsal dinner, and we mailed out invitations so we wouldn’t get bombarded with questions. I found a free template online, and I printed them at home, so really the only cost was the envelopes and stamps (~$8). I included “Please RSVP by Texting or Calling…” and almost everyone RSVPed, which I appreciated a lot (and helped us give a final headcount to the restaurant). I think invitations are a good idea for the Rehearsal Dinner because people will need to keep track of both the address and time of your wedding, as well as the Rehearsal Dinner, so it’s nice for them to have a piece of paper they can hold onto and mark onto their calendar or take with them.

Post # 6
Member
12973 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My Future Mother-In-Law just mailed invitations to Rehearsal Dinner – and I think a big reason is that the restaurant wanted pre-selected meals two weeks ahead of the meal.

Post # 8
Hostess
23607 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@lovelylight99:  we did an evite for our rehearsal dinner just to get the word out, but didn’t want to do paper invites!

Post # 9
Member
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It depends on what you prefer and how swamped you are! I really adore paper products so any chance to send out invitations I will take! : )

Do what makes the most sense for you and your group. Mail out paper invitations, or sned out an Evite or Paperless Post, or send an email.

Good luck!

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Post # 11
Hostess
23607 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@lovelylight99:  Happy to help! πŸ™‚

Post # 12
Member
2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I designed an invite to be sent, but we ended up sending it out as an e-vite. It was only family/bridal party (and their SOs), so we didn’t feel too bad about it. They knew beforehand where to meet, and what was going on… the invite-turned-e-vite was just because I got obsessed with designing things, lol.

 

Post # 14
Member
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

yes. I’ve never been invited to one without an invitation…

Post # 15
Member
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I think we’ll just be using word-of-mouth or an e-mail since our rehearsal dinner party will mainly consist of our bridal party and their SOs/children (probably no more than 25 ppl).

Post # 16
Member
1697 posts
Bumble bee

How would you normally invite thirty or forty people to a sit-down dinner of that level of formality? There is really no such thing as “wedding etiquette”, just the ordinary range of formal-through-informal good manners that you use for all the rest of your life. For something as important as a wedding, most wise hostesses just choose the most formal form of their own manners and go with those. More foolish hostesses try to use the most formal extreme of someone else’s manners-set, and then of course they end up out of their depth..

Myself, I send formal written invitations nearly any time I sit ten or more people down to dinner, and informal written invitations nearly any time I sit down four or more. Hand-written invitations are considered more formal than printed ones, and cost less and require less running around, so that’s what I use.

BUT if your social norms are to use evites or telephoned invitations for other dinners of similar scale and formality, then by all means the same form is perfectly appropriate for your rehearsal dinner.

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