(Closed) "Are you sure you want to carry about that much?" Ring Question

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Did the worry of walking around with an expensive object on your hand effect your ring decision?
    Heck no, I want people to see it and know its expensive! : (48 votes)
    23 %
    Kinda of, it crossed my mind but I got something "flashy" anyways : (61 votes)
    29 %
    Kinda of, it crossed my mind and I went with something less "flashy" : (36 votes)
    17 %
    Yes, I decided to tone down the wedding band : (8 votes)
    4 %
    other: explain : (22 votes)
    10 %
    EDIT: No, it has never crossed my mind : (36 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
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    4439 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    I didn’t think about it at the time of purchase and I don’t live or frequent an area where I would worry about my ring.  Once after the proposal Fiance asked if I thought about carrying around $2k on my finger and how it feels – I laughed and said AWESOME!

    The only time I’ve thought about it was when I was getting a mani and had to take my ring off to get lotioned up, then I was told to go wash my hands.  I picked up ring with my slimey hands so as not to leave it unattended.  Going forward I will leave ring in car when going for a mani!

    Some girls also get fake rings for travelling.  FI thinks I should do that for our honeymoon because we’ll be in and out of water a lot.  I’m undecided yet.

    EDIT: I didn’t vote either because my answer is “not really” and NOT because I want people to see how expensivei t is….

    Post # 4
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    4948 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I can’t vote, because none of the options really fit me.

    No, I’m not worried. But I don’t “want to show it off and let people know it’s expensive” either. If I’m worried, I’d either wear my stone palm-side in or leave it at home. However, I’ve never been worried. I wore it when it Mexico, even off the resort and in the jungle. I didn’t feel comfortable leaving it in the hotel room safe. Those things have been known to get broken in.

    Post # 5
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    1718 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I voted “other”.  We got rings that I thought were pretty and matched my ering.  We had both rings insured so if it does get stolen, we can easily replace them. We could afford flashier bling but I just opted for simpler pieces. //  I live in Boston and I see ladies wearing major bling with their LV/Gucci/etc bags playing with ipads on the train all the time.  lol 

    Post # 6
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    5423 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I do the same as Gferg.  I don’t care about people’s perception.  I just wear what I want to wear.

    Post # 7
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    3697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I guess none of your options fit me either. 🙂  I’ve never told anyone what my engagement ring cost, and probably never will.  I don’t need anyone to know what it’s worth – it’s worth the world to me because my husband got down on one knee and asked me to be his wife with it in his hand.  It is also worth a lot of money, but that doesn’t bother me – I do leave at home when travelling abroad, but only so I don’t lose it. 

    My wedding band is channel set diamonds, but they are small, it’s just exactly what I wanted.  Pretty on its own or with my engagemeng ring.

    Post # 8
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    6355 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Hmm, I definitely did think about flashiness, partly as it relates to crime, but also flashiness in general.

    I maxed out quality of my e-ring center diamond (cut, idealscope, HCA, clarity, color, lack of fluorescence) rather than size. I will also be going for a relatively understated wedding band (possibly no diamonds at all).

    Here were my reasons in order of importance:

    1. Blind to money entirely, Fiance first had me put all dfferent shapes and sizes on my finger to figure out what we both thought was the best for my finger and taste. We came up with a size range that looked best and larger rings than that looked unattractive and unfeminine to me. The stone we got was within our set range.

    2. I pride myself as a “quality over quantity” person in general in life. I’m very detail-oriented. Sure, other people might only glance at my ring, they might not notice much about it. But it’s not about them. I know I love fine details and I knew I would be staring at it up close constantly. I was right. I don’t know how many times I’ve seen others post on the bee than you can’t see warmth in a GIA F or an inclusion of GIA VS1. I can see both, but I have to look for them. That’s perfect for me. I can identify my stone as mine with careful looking, but am never distracted by something I compromised about its quality.

    3. I didn’t want to get such a large stone that it would seem flashy for my city/circle. I’m just not a flashy person. I don’t like anything about my style to be IN YOUR FACE. I like to be elegant and part of elegance is not having your clothing, accessories, or general demeanor scream from the rooftops.

    4. Crime. It’s a diverse city. Why would I want to attract the attention of a criminal by wearing something really obviously flashy, compared to everyone else? I have insurance and I would not risk my life to hold onto my ring even if I didn’t, but attracting criminal attention is just risky business in general. This is really low on the list though, compared to the other 3 reasons, because I just don’t think that it’s a huge risk. I don’t know the stats on it though. Do most criminals really notice wedding jewelry? Could they even tell it wasn’t CZ?

    Post # 9
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    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    None of the above. Neither of us worried about how much I was carrying on my finger, but I don’t want people to know it is expensive either.

    My set is expensive, but in the area we live in it is pretty average so no one would even care or bother to mug me. LOL

    Post # 10
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    7437 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I chose other. I wasn’t thinking about what anyone else would think about my ring (size, flashiness, price, etc…). I just wanted something that Fiance and I loved.

    I don’t really go to places where I have to fear for my ring’s safety, and if I did, I’d just turn it around. What I’m most afraid about now is somehow losing it!

    Post # 11
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    11233 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Meh, I don’t live in an area where this is really an issue. I have a “flashy” ring IMO (though not comparatively on here), but a) everyone here has flashy rings, and b) there’s no crime here except for shoplifting.

    Post # 12
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    14656 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I never really thought about it, and I dont feel like people look at it and associate it with a cost and whether or not I’m worth mugging. 

    Post # 13
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    808 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    It’s not showing off, I just don’t worry about it at all just like I don’t worry about being car jacked. I know bad things happen but I try to be aware of my surroundings and know that some things are just out of my control so why worry?

    Post # 14
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    8471 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I didn’t think about that at all.  And if I’m going to get robbed at gunpoint, take it.  We can replace my ring, not my life. 

    Post # 15
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    1460 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I don’t ever even think about it.  I mean I drive my car into the city and it’s worth much more than my jewelry and I’m not worried about anyone stealing that.

    Post # 16
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    846 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    thoughts like that never even crossed my mind. i just showed my fiance some rings i liked and he picked one. neither of us thought about what anyone else would think about it (size, flashiness, price, etc). 

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