"Are you sure you're not having twins?"

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
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Bumble bee

Oh and if this is happening at work, then an alternative would be “Are you sure that question is not an HR violation?”.  I have no patience for people who don’t know how to control their brain-farts in the workplace.  

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I had the most annoying questions at work when I was pregnant too. I’m currently TTC #2 and dreading going through it again, though luckily the belly-rubber doesn’t work there anymore. Anyway, I once answered the twins thing with, “I don’t know, I opted not to have any prenatal care.” That shut her up. Someone in another department that I don’t even know made another comment on how big my belly was and I told her I wasn’t pregnant. Can you tell I’m not a fan of rudeness?! Haha

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I got this all the time when I was pregnant. Depending on who would say it I’d say “Really? Do I really look that huge?” or “last time I checked it was still one in there”

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Can’t you just smack them and blame it on the hormones? 😉

ETA: On a serious note, you could feign a look of confusion, ask “oh, why do you say that?” and watch them squirm as they try to find something decent to say instead of “you look big.” 

Post # 20
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Sugar bee

My SIL had this happen once when we were out to lunch, without hesitation or any ounce of humor in her voice she goes, “Nope, I just couldn’t shit this morning,” and walked to our table. It was then that I realized how quickly these things get old, and how clueless people really are.

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

There is no reason not to take it personal. People are blatantly rude and if pregnant women just grit their teeth and be polite back they will never learn that what they’re saying is inappropriate.

I am very straight forward and would probably say “That’s a very inappropriate comment.” and then leave it at that.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Jessi2883 :  awwwww bee 🙁

If this helps at all… I am not even pregnant (but fat) and 2 days ago some lady that looked a couple decades older than me…tried to order me her seat on the bus. Fml… I was so embarassed.

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

A good ol’ “Nope, just fat!” should do! It will make them feel immediately guilty, while you look like the cool “go with the flow” gal.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

“Nope, just fat. Thanks for noticing.” The key is to do this dead-tone with a straight face.

Post # 26
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Another vote for “Why do you ask?”. (Or “No I’m not having twins, why do you ask?”) Because there’s no good answer without them digging themselves into a hole.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I never took any comments personally. PEople are usually just trying to make small talk and whatever 

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

People are so rude/oblivious!! When I actually was pregnant with twins I can’t tell u how many people asked “oh are they natural or did you do ivf?” I was just flabbergasted by that!! I just learned quickly that people have no filter apparently.

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Kay1126 :  “I don’t know, I opted not to have any prenatal care.” 😂

Post # 30
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Busy bee

I love the “no, I’m just fat” response! I’m saving that one for when this hapens to me

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