Post # 1
Faceplaming so hard right now.
I don’t think I look pregnant at all, but I wore a maxi dress today and I admit my stomach’s not totally flat. Still totally hurt when my Mother patted my belly and asked me if I’m sure I’m not pregnant. I’m still cringing, it was so awkward. I actually thought the dress was slimming and felt really good in it, but now I’ve stowed it away because she’s made me super self conscious.
Ever happened to anyone else?
Post # 2
ZebraPrintMe: Sorry you feel like this. A similar thing happened at work between two colleagues, very awkward.
Post # 3
I get it sometimes. Never from someone I know though, always complete strangers asking me when I’m due. It’s terrible. I’m so sorry she said that, especially your own mum.
Post # 4
I think she was kind of hoping I was, my parents keep asking us when we’re having kids because all their friends are grandparents and they’re getting impatient..
Post # 5
ZebraPrintMe: How does any woman get to be a grown adult and not know that you NEVER do or say that to any other woman? not even your daughter!!!
Post # 6
ZebraPrintMe: Ah bless her, typical Mum thing to say.
Post # 7
Pour yourself a glass of wine, honey.
Ugh, I would kill my mother.
Post # 8
This is one of those rules that everyone should know. You NEVER ask that unless you know. EVER. I never say anything unless I’ve heard they’re pregnant already, I mean unless it’s someone who is as thin as a rail with an obvious 6 month bump lol.
Post # 9
She is your mom…wishful thinking I think
Post # 10
That happened to me once, I was wearing a flowing dress just because I was pretty bloated that day… when the wind blew you could see the outline on my stomach which I guess looked a little bit pregnant compared to my normal tummy. I had 2 people that day ask me when I was due… and a few who were clearly glancing down at my stomach debating whether or not they should say something.
It was humiliating to say the least, nothing makes you feel fatter than being mistaken for being pregnant. But maybe it is just something when people see a woman wearing a dress with a little bit of a tummy at the same time?
Post # 11
I doubt she was making the comment to make you feel fat, she was probably just saying it because she wants a grandchild. If you like the way the dress looks you should wear it. She never said “daughter, YOU LOOK FAT, are you sure you aren’t pregnant”
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
I’m a diva-size girl (18/20), and my mother once made me wear her ratty cigarette-smelling old lady cardigan because I was dressed “indecently for a girl of my size.” I was wearing a full-length maxi dress, at a BBQ, but apparently baring my arms was “offending the menfolk present.” Did I mention I was also 21 at the time? And she said it in front of guests? Humiliating.
Sounds like your mother is just spiteful and rude. Ignore it, and wear your dress – I’m sure you look gorgeous.
Post # 13
ZebraPrintMe: Isn’t your mom the one who told you that you were “too big to wear a poofy dress”? (You are far from it, by the way.)
Sounds like your Mom is not very MOTHERLY when it comes to building up a daughter’s self esteem and body image, and I think she really needs to be put in her place at this point. I wouldnt even wait until the next opportunity… I’d just say “Ya know, Mom, it’s pretty hurtful/annoying/impolite/inappropriate/you-pick-what-goes-here when you direct unnecessary comments towards my body… Like you did on Easter and when trying on dresses, and I’d like for you to stop.”