Post # 18
I’m taking his last name because it’s what I want. I have no attachment to my last name, it’s my bio father’s who was never in my life. Plus my last name is really difficult, while my soon to be last name is much simpler! Seriously, I’ve had people I work with tell me they’re so excited for when my name changes so they can say and spell it, haha!
Post # 17
My option isn’t on the poll — we are both changing our names… and we are both keeping our “maiden” names (adding the new last name on the end). Long story short, his parents had to change their last name in their country to avoid genocide and Darling Husband wants to carry on his true family name with his wife and future children.
Post # 19
it wasn’t even a discussion. i am keeping my own name.
Post # 20
@MapleMoose: That’s cool – it’s great that he wants to revive that connection with his heritage.
Post # 21
I’ll eventually change but for now I’m keeping my maiden name. Partially for work related reasons for the time being and the fact that I don’t care enough to get it done RIGHT NOW. 🙂 It might be a while…(I’m a tad lazy)
Post # 22
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I plan on keeping my maiden name professionally and using his last name privately with friends and family and acquaintances. We are still negotiating though because he really wants me to legally change my name as well; he already did because he’s adopted so he doesn’t see the big deal. I have already changed my name once to my exhusband’s last name and then I changed it back after the divorce. I guess on some level the hassle of having to change it back after the divorce is what is really holding me back. That and the fact that I had a bit of an identity crisis when I changed my name the first time; it was weird not going by my maiden name because I actually was called by my maiden last name all the time growing up since there were so many people with my first name.
Post # 23
WELL.. if he had a lame last name, I’d keep mine. I have a pretty unique last name. Never known anyone but my family to have. His is pretty unique as well. So I decided I can deal!
Post # 24
I’m taking his last name only because I want to. I’m happy for our future kids to share the same last name as both of us. His last name is Kennedy so I like it much better than my own boring last name.
Post # 25
I think is is ridiculous the woman is expected to change her name. Why can’t the man change his? It’s the exact same process. How is someone seem as less of a man for changing their name or if their wife doesn’t take their name? I didn’t take my husbands name and he’s fine with it. I love my name and didn’t want to give it up. I told anyone who asked that my husband was more than welcome to change his name to mine 🙂 Keep your name!!
Post # 26
I’ll take his, I want to. But if I didnt want to then I wouldn’t. I personally don’t care whether people do or don’t in this case. I could care less!
Post # 27
I want to keep mine, but I’m leading towards hyphenating. Everyone makes it seem like a hyphenated last name is like the worst thing in the world though…ughhh screw them!
Post # 28
I’m taking his last name, because I want to 🙂
Post # 29
@Neetch: +1 I’m changing mine because I want to. I have my dad’s last name. He wasn’t around when I was a kid, and passed away a few years ago. I finally made peace with how I felt about him, but I still don’t have any connection to my last name. I like my FI’s last name and love his family, so it was a no-brainer that I would change it.
Post # 30
@Sugarbee711: I see my maiden name as my father’s name, and I don’t want it (let’s just say my father isn’t a good person) so I will take my future husband’s name.
I think it should ultimately be up to you since you’re the one who has to live with it. You could hyphenate it if you’re willing to… or use your maiden name professionally but the married name legally (it’s possible right?).
Post # 31
I’m keeping my maiden name – I worked hard to get an academic career going and am very proud to be Dr M, it’s just who I am.