(Closed) Are you taking his name?

posted 7 years ago in Names
  • poll: Did you change your name?
    I took his name because that's what you're supposed to do. : (13 votes)
    7 %
    I kept my name, its MY name! : (37 votes)
    19 %
    I could care less, its just a name. : (1 votes)
    1 %
    I took his name becuase that's what I wanted to do. : (124 votes)
    65 %
    we both changed our names : (4 votes)
    2 %
    i hyphenated : (6 votes)
    3 %
    other.... : (5 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 47
    Member
    1585 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    For me, I was always going to take my partner’s name. I remember back when I was still dating I would think of their last names mixed with my first name and initials and I would cringe. I come from a Jewish family so so many of the names were VERY over the top Jewish. Goldenblatt, Steinberg, Rabinowitz.

    My FI’s last name will make me sound like a movie star. I love it.

     

    I was never a choice for me. You get married, you share the same last name. I don’t really care if you take his, he takes yours, you make an anagram of both hyphenate. You and your partner should have the same name. To me, holding onto your own name always seemed like a way to hold back a little and not commit 100%. If the marriage didn’t work out, you wouldn’t have to jump through hoops to change everything back, you wouldn’t have to get new business cards and you wouldn’t have to correct people who called you by the wrong name.

    I’m sure that has little to do with most people’s active decisions, but for me, it was never up for discussion. I am taking his name.

    Post # 48
    Member
    6891 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I took his name because I have very little attachment to my maiden name. My parents are divorced and remarried, so my mom and dad have different last names anyhow. It wasn’t a big deal to me. I’ve pretty much adjusted to it, though it’s still weird at times to hear it.

    I also wanted to have the same last name so when we have kids it is less confusing. I know people think it wouldn’t be or shouldn’t be a factor, but I do since my parents haven’t had the same last names for the majority of my childhood.

    Post # 49
    Member
    1578 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

    I’m taking his name. People won’t have trouble saying my new last name.

    Post # 50
    Member
    4 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I will probably take his name personally but keep my maiden name professionally.  I’m a lawyer – so the idea of getting all of my stamps remade, getting a new notary seal, confusing all of my clients/colleagues, etc. is not very appealing!  I figure I can change it at any time in the future if I change my mind.  Plus – I’m attached to my maiden name and this gives me a way to have the best of both worlds ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 51
    Member
    1360 posts
    Bumble bee

    I am taking his name because I want to.

    I’ll be dropping my middle name and keeping my last name as my middle though since it’s the only way the family name will carry. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 52
    Member
    1278 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I am changing mine for a few reasons… but firstly because I want us to be a family unit with one surname and I didn’t feel any confliction about changing it.

    I work in the school system and practically, it is SO confusing when you are setting up new families on the database with all different combinations of names. That is just me being practical though as I really do feel that people should do what is right for them. 

    I didn’t want to hyphenate, my boy probably wouldn’t change his name to mine, and I dont mind changing anyway. 

    Post # 53
    Member
    1019 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’ll be keeping mine. Long story short, I am very attached to my last name, even though most people find it difficult to spell and pronounce. On the other hand, my boyfriend dislikes his (which is more easily pronounced, but often gets misspelled as a relatively common word in English) to the point of not wanting me to take it, even if I were to use both names.

    Post # 54
    Member
    401 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We are being incredibly difficult, lol. We always knew that I would not take his last name, because it is a sexist practice. So we decided to combine somehow. But then I decided that instead of bringing my current last name into the equation, which is the last name of my bio-dad who I don’t speak to, I wanted to take the name of my mom and step-dad. This is also important to me because my step-dads last name would end with him, and now I will carry it on.

    After I made that choice, he wanted to change his name too. His mothers family is Cuban, and he has a deep connection with his cultural heritage on that side. Much more than he identifies with his father’s American Germanic heritage. Now he is going to use his mother’s Cuban name when we hypanite instead of his fathers American last name, which is what he currently has.

    I know it sounds crazy, but it works for us!

    Post # 55
    Member
    1525 posts
    Bumble bee

    I always knew I’d take my husband’s last name, so it wasn’t a big deal for me to change it. I’m not attached to my maiden name at all. Plus, my husband has a four year old and I want us all to have the same name. ๐Ÿ™‚ I like his last name a lot more than mine.

    Post # 56
    Member
    152 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m taking his… I really don’t want to, because I have a unique last name that only my family has here in the USA, but he feels really strongly about me taking his name.  I’m not sure how I feel about changing my middle name to my maiden name (or if I can in Michigan) but it’s something that I’ll think about.

     

    I’ve just gotten used to no one else having my same name… it’ll be strange to have a more common name.  On the other hand, I’ll no longer be toward the end of the alphabet, and people might actually be able to pronounce/spell my name correctly, so changing it may be a good thing!

    Post # 57
    Member
    110 posts
    Blushing bee

    This is hardly a secret though I wish it were (I’m still a waiting bee) but I can’t wait to take his name! For one, my last name is Russian and, while common in my home country, mostly unpronouncable to anyone else… And I am just in love with his last name! It’s beautiful, I think, and quite poetic/evocative. And I’d feel like Biblical royalty! (not to give it away too much, but it’s the name of a famous king ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 58
    Member
    706 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We both hyphenated.  I don’t believe that I as the woman had to change my name to his, but having a family name was really important (especially to DH).  Luckily, he understood my feelings and we do have a family name.  We both hyphenated and are now both Hisname-Myname.

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