(Closed) Are you taking his name?

posted 7 years ago in Names
  • poll: Are you taking your fiance's last name once you marry?
    Yes : (72 votes)
    66 %
    No, I am keeping my maiden name. : (19 votes)
    17 %
    I'm going to hyphenate my maiden name and his last name. : (7 votes)
    6 %
    I'm still undecided. : (11 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2054 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I am hyphenating…I have a really different/foreign last name and I am super attached to it…so I am keeping it and hyphenating. also…his sister and I share the same first name…so I didnt want to have the same exact name as she does. so it will all work out 🙂

    Post # 4
    Member
    285 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I’m still undecided. Part of me doesn’t want to let my name go, it’s mine and my family’s and it’s perfectly good the way it is.  And I am a professional, although def do not have an established client following or any worry like that, but I worked really hard to get those diplomas with MY name on them haha. Plus some girls I know say they regret changing their name, and actually so does my mother. But it seems really important to FH and he will feel bad if I don’t change. We both have pretty long super Italian last names and hyphenating just feels like too much of a mouthful. Ughh stress!

    Post # 5
    Member
    1801 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I took my DH’s last name.  I don’t really have a specific reasoning, I just always knew I’d do that.  Maybe I just had this vision of traditional ways of doing it, but I never really even considered not changing my name.  Lame answer, I know!

    Post # 6
    Member
    4606 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I am. I have no reason not to, and from all my experiences of having a different last name than my mom (she’s remarried, and my brother and I weren’t adopted) it can be really difficult for some things. Like having to show proof that you are in fact related when it came to things like doctor visits and insurance… Plus, I’m kind of traditional in that sense I guess.

    I’ll use my maiden name as my middle name and take my FI’s last name.

    Post # 8
    Member
    2 posts
    Wannabee

    I kept my name. It just seemed weird to me to all of a sudden have a new name. I’ve lived 30 years with this name. I still feel like a family. I just have my own name. And honestly, it’s always seemed like kind of antiquated tradition. To me, it’s just not a big deal to have different names. But then again, neither my mom nor my aunt changed their name so it’s normal in my family to have a different last name from your mom.

    Post # 9
    Member
    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I have dreamed of being his last name since we were 17. That being said, I have no problem with women who don’t do it. Doesn’t matter. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    2054 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    @Miss Tattoo:im the same way….dont care what you do…its really a personal decision/preference.

    Post # 11
    Member
    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I didn’t vote.  I need an other.

    I’m legally and socially taking his name; however at work I will continue to use my currant last name. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I had toyed with the idea of keeping mine (I actually changed my name already once before due to having an estranged father, and my current last name is pretty special to me cause it’s from my mother’s side), but when the name issue came up, Fiance made it clear that he was actually a little offended by the idea of me not taking his! So I guess that’s out. lol. Back to middle name territory it goes!

    Post # 13
    Member
    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m keeping mine – I always figured I would but when the issue came up, just thinking about changing it made me feel like I was going to simultaneously throw up and punch my fiance.

    I have a lot of more well reasoned out reasons as well (from feminist/political reasons to it just being an awesome last name), but the visceral emotional reaction just cemented it. 

    Post # 13
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    14496 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I waited 40 years to be Mrs. Soandso, I wouldn’t have it any other way.  FH would have been really offended had I even suggested keeping my name, but I wanted it any way.

    Post # 14
    Member
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Yep, I am. I’ve never considered not taking his name. I’ll probably get some crap for saying this but I kind of feel like you’re more of a family when all parties have the same last name, especially after adding kids into the mix. With that said, I’m basing my opinion solely on the fact that I’ve never known someone to not take their husbands name. I’m sure its much more popular in other areas of the country but in mine, it just seems like everyone changes their name. 

    I dont personally have an issue with it when people don’t change their name, its just a personal preference. 

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