(Closed) Are you telling anyone about TTC?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
  • poll: Who have you told about TTC?
    No One : (80 votes)
    49 %
    My parents : (20 votes)
    12 %
    DH's parents : (10 votes)
    6 %
    Other relatives : (8 votes)
    5 %
    Friend/s : (44 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5543 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    We haven’t started yet (much to my dismay but darn being practical!) but I think my mom will know and that is it. I’m not nearly close enough with his mom for her to know until we are actually pregnant but I am really close to my mom and don’t have very good female friends to talk about something like that with and I think, especially if it is hard for us I will go crazy not telling ANYONE. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    4945 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Telling nobody. It’s noone’s business. I also consider it a very private matter. I don’t want people constantly asking how it’s going. Plus, if it doesn’t happen, I don’t want to have to deal with explaining that either.

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    95 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2006

    Just my sister and my close friend who is going through the same process as me. I get really tired of people asking me all the time about when we’re planning to try. What’s the best comeback without being rude?

    Post # 9
    Member
    1069 posts
    Bumble bee

    I already know that we will struggle with fertility so I plan on not telling anyone that we’re TTC.

    Post # 10
    Member
    2718 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We’re TTC, but have only told 2 people. A really good friend of ours, and I told my hairdresser!

    Post # 11
    Member
    456 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    gosh, family already puts enough pressure on us DAILY!! Yikes. The most I will tell them is that we are off birth control and put it in the Lord’s hands!

    And that way, they cool down a bit about it.

    Post # 12
    Member
    456 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We haven’t started trying yet, but, like you, i had planned on telling no one.  Now, as it gets closer, i find myself telling a few of my friends, mostly because none of my friends have kids and i guess i sort of want to prep them that it’s coming eventually. that said, i prob won’t say a word about it when we actually start trying!

    Also, my Darling Husband can’t keep his mouth shut and he tells everyone. he’s told a few people i’m knocked up recently, and i’m still on the pill.  so i’m guessing his friends will know every little detail, which is kind of off-putting to me, but whatever. Good that he’s excited!

    Post # 13
    Member
    540 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I told my sister (we tell each other everything), my pregnant friend at work (I had a lot of questions and wanted someone I could trust), and my neighbor friend who has children (who struggled with infertility).

    Post # 14
    Member
    148 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t plan on telling anyone… it seems too private to me!  

    I do have a perspective on the other side though.  Someone I know is TTC, and it has been awkwardly brought up several times… and I’m not even that close to her!  I would say in an average night out, she mentions it 5-6 times.  So my advice would be: if you do tell your friends, don’t elaborate too much too often!  It is a truly exciting time, but the gory details are not aquantances business!

    Post # 15
    Member
    4945 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @Onime:   I get really tired of people asking me all the time about when we’re planning to try. What’s the best comeback without being rude?

    When I was married to my first husband (for 16 years), we would CONSTANTLY get asked that. People thought it was a crime that we didn’t have children. Even my mother would constantly nag me about “well if I had grandbabies..” blah blah and it really was irritating. She even told me that my eggs are getting old.

    So one day I told her in a not-so-nice way that it’s not polite to ask, because you never know if someone is having fertility issues or not. Because you just never know. Or some people don’t want children. Other couples may be having marital issues and TTC isn’t the right thing at the moment. I just really hate when people butt into other people’s personal matters.

    Post # 16
    Member
    5107 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I’ve told several people… Well, a lot of people know I should say. People asked if we were going to try for a baby after the wedding and I’m a horrible liar so I said yes, and of course it would be in front of like, a group of friends, a group of coworkers, whatever it is… =/ I hate it because the wedding was in March (they don’t know we started before the wedding) and now people are asking questions like, “have you seen the doctor yet,” giving the “stop trying and it will happen” advice, “what does the doctor say,” etc. Which, I’m pretty open about my fertility struggles, so it’s whatever, but I don’t like it that people just don’t know what to say so they end up saying hurtful things without knowing it. I wish I could just wear an infertility etiquette sign lol.

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