Post # 1
Are you telling your family or friends that you’re TTC? or if you haven’t started yet do you plan to tell your friends and family you’re TTC?
I ask this question because a little over 2 years ago my SIL told everyone they were TTC she dyed her hair back to her natural color, gave up drinking alcohol, starting eating healthy, etc. She basically told everyone and re-arranged her whole life. Well here we are over 2 years later and still no baby. It’s so hard for her because people constantly ask them what happened, is something wrong, why can’t they get pregnant, etc. She’s also become so sensitive to it and people are always cautious around her and never want to talk about babies or other women getting pregnant.
I do not want to go through that so we decided we’re ready to TTC we’re going to keep it a secret from pretty much everybody (I might tell my sister) but then if you do that everyone thinks your baby was a “surprise” or unplanned.
What do you bees think?
Post # 3
Its such a personal choice. We didn’t tell a soul, except my ob-gyn. We didn’t want the pressure of people asking because sometimes its does take awhile, and we didn’t want other people knowing to add to the stress of TTC, which we wanted to be more fun than “work”. Personally, I could care less if people think it is a surprise or unplanned.
Post # 4
Yeah, definitely not going to tell anyone (except maybe VERY close family members). I’m too afraid of jinxing it. …plus don’t want people all up in my business if it winds up being difficult for us to conceive.
Post # 5
We didn’t tell anyone when we started trying. That makes me a little squeamish, for some reason. I know it’s not the equivalent of telling people, “Hey, we’re going to have sex tonight,” but that’s what it sounds like in my mind. Lol, maybe I’m just a prude.
Post # 6
Only telling weddingbee and my two best friends! 🙂
Post # 7
@MrsSpring: I agree with you. I will not be telling anyone, because in my opinion, it’s so awkward when someone says, “well, we’re trying to get pregnant!” Ew, thanks for the mental image haha
I deleted a girl from my facebook friends because her statuses were constant updates on her quest to get pregnant.
Post # 8
@ hotchildinthecity – It’s good to know there’s more of us out there. 🙂 I was uncomfortable enough telling my dad that I was pregnant… He replied, “Good job, Mr. Spring!” Awkward!
Post # 9
for me it will be hard because i have to go off my meds. i get really bad migraines and i’m on lots of meds for them, and i get botox. after the wedding i’ll be getting off of them so we can ttc… and i’m expecting the migraines to get worse, and my parents will ask question, like “why don’t you go to the doctor and get different meds, when’s the last time you had botox, isn’t it time for more botox”, etc. i’m not happy lying to them, and i don’t know what we’ll end up saying. we’ve already discussed that we don’t want that added pressure of everyone knowing, so we’ll keep it to ourselves for as long as possible, but eventually i have a feeling i’ll have to tell everyone why all of a sudden i have a migraine every day.
Post # 10
@Mrs. Spring – my dad did the same thing!! He was like ” good job!” It was so bizarre that my dad was basically telling my husband congrats on having sex with me and knocking me up 🙂
Post # 11
We’re not TTC, but even if we were I wouldn’t tell anyone. My desire to avoid talking about it if things didn’t go as planned would outweigh my excitement in sharing the plans. As Nat2413’s sister discovered, once you’ve opened the door to talking about it, you can’t really shut it again. So I would wait to open it until we were really sure (like the pregnancy was far enough along).
Post # 12
We have actually told all of our close friends (there are about 10 of us who are really close and hang out all the time). We already know that I am going to have a hard time getting pregnant and it will be nice to have the support of our friends. I consider my friends part of my family and I know I can go to them when I need support. I also know that they will not put any pressure on my or Darling Husband and they will not constantly ask if we are pregnant yet. It is really nice having friends that understand my situation.
We are the first couple in our group to get married (there are a couple others that are close though!) and I think all of our friends are looking forward to seeing us take the next step and have kids.
Post # 13
My mom has commented to me that they “tried’ to have me and it took awhile and they ‘tried” as soon as they could to have my brother as close in age to me as possible (we’re 18 months apart)
Mental image? No thanks. I don’t want to impose that on other poeple.
Next thing you know Mom’ll be suggested I prop my legs up afterwards to help out the sperm and other Too Much Information ideas. And if we do have trouble, I don’t want everyone knowing and/or judging if i get my hair done or making suggestions on changing my life (mom is already telling me i won’t be allowed to work out. Um..not true)
It’ll be weird though. Everybody asks everybody’s business in our families and amongst friends. DH’s friend and his wife talk about it and Darling Husband doesn’t think it’d be weird to talk to his buddy about it so they can time our kids being close together in age. Yew.
Ew is kinda what comes to mind, though!!! But then after the baby shower this weekend, all my friends were talking about when they’d like to TTC. So maybe I just have an ick factor.
Post # 14
We have basically told both sets of parents that we will be TTC soon after the honeymoon.
As far as siblings I don’t think we will come right out and say it unless asked. Because how do you bring something like that up??? Hehe. But if asked we’re not going ot deny it.
As far as other family members it’s not really their business.
Post # 15
I think we would both want to tell our parents and siblings, but that’s it. Extended family and friends would not be in on it, just in case something happened, which unfortunately is likely with me because I already know that TTC will be very difficult for me (which is also why I feel like we’d have to tell immediate family).
Post # 16
Other than my OBGYN, I’m not comfortable telling anyone. It’s my business and even our parents don’t need to know.