(Closed) Are you the dominant one in your relationship?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Who is the dominant one in your relationship?
    I am : (63 votes)
    29 %
    My partner is : (32 votes)
    15 %
    I am in daily life, he is in our sexual life : (52 votes)
    24 %
    He is in our daily life, I am in our sexual life : (6 votes)
    3 %
    We are both dominant - head butting beware! : (36 votes)
    16 %
    We are both submissive - someone make a decision! : (16 votes)
    7 %
    The mandatory "other" : (15 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    8444 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’d say I’m dominant in day to day life, but he’s way more dominant in the bedroom.  It’s what works for us.

    Post # 4
    1848 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I’m more chatty than he is, but once we’re both comfortable he’s definitely more of an attention whore, lol. I would say we’re both dominant. I don’t back down from anyone and neither does he. One time we got into it and OH MAN, it was horrible! We’re both bull-headed.

    In the bedroom, I prefer him to be dominant. I get a kick out of him asserting himself.

    Post # 5
    1762 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I voted that were both dominant in our relationship.

    Post # 6
    2755 posts
    Sugar bee

    He is more dominant, both in and out of the bedroom, and that’s just how I like it! I was with a submissive man before and it didn’t work for me. I like having control when I want to, but I also really like having someone to lean on and let make the decisions when I won’t/can’t.

    Post # 7
    4439 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    I’m dominant on a day to day basis, Darling Husband usually defers to me — not sure if it’s because he doesn’t care or because he knows I’ll win any argument 🙂


    As for the bedroom, I don’t think either of us is more dominant.  I initiate 99% of the time, but I consider that and dominance a different thing.

    Post # 8
    4495 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m definitely the dominant one. I take control of the situation and am much more composed under pressure. I am also the more outgoing of the two of us. My Fiance is very laid back and on the reserved side, but when a crisis arises he is useless! Haha. Okay, not really, but he panics and stresses a lot more than I do.

    In the bedroom though he is more dominant.

    Post # 9
    463 posts
    Helper bee

    We think there are three types of people – people who like to lead/control, people who like to follow/take direction, and people who just freaking want to do their own thing with the optional free cooperation of anyone else who’s interested in that thing.

    We are both the third type.

    Post # 10
    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Both Darling Husband and I are dominant, eldest child etc. but we don’t butt heads as often as we did when we first moved in together. there are just some things that aren’t worth fighting about. If one cares about something more than the other, then the one that doesn’t care as much gives in, but that doesn’t mean that the one who gave in is submissive.

    Post # 11
    9956 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I wouldn’t describe either of us as dominant, but we’re certainly not submissive or passive either.  We’re a good mix.  I’d describe us as an equal partnership, with mutual love and respect for each other’s feelings and opinions, in and out of the bedroom.

    So, I voted mandatory other.  🙂

    Edit:  Haha, sorry for the “Oh, we’re so perfectly balanced” comment.  :/  Guess I could always lie…

    Post # 12
    2082 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @BoxerLady:  I would say I’m probably the more dominant one in our relationship. What do you mean by dominant in day to day life? How do I interact with others? I don’t feel like I always have to be in control of the situation with other people. I’m willing to share and compromise. At the same time, I’m not going to tolerate being walked all over either.

    Sexually, usually whoever has the most energy is the dominant one. That tends to vary.


    Post # 13
    1130 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We’re both dominant for the most part but we can also be really indecisive. If we really care about something, we are really opinionated about it but if we don’t it takes forever to make a decision!


    Post # 14
    4523 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014



    To quote to ever-so-eloquent Lil Wayne: “I run this shit.” 


    He knows it, I know it, everyone knows it.  *Now*, I don’t treat him liked he’s whipped in front of others because I wouldnt want to make him feel “emasculated.”  In fact, when we’re with friends and something to that effect comes up, he’ll usually say “I just LET her think she’s in charge” *eye roll*  Everyone knows the truth, pal.

    Post # 15
    11233 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I am, by far. I’m the one who’s picky and opinionated/Type A. He’s very laid back and not picky at all.

    Post # 16
    1555 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We’re both pretty submissive, which gets annoying at times when it comes to making decisions. We normally go back & forth over the smallest things, lol.

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