Post # 45
So, I was raised as an only child. I am my mothers only. So, by default her favorite. My dad loved his first daughter, she could do no wrong, then his son, which he didn’t care about at all. Then me. Who he hates.
I plan on only having one kid to make it easy. I’m pretty sure I’m someone that would play favorites, and I don’t want to do that.
Post # 47
craigslistgirl: I don’t have any kids yet, but I don’t want to have a favorite. Growing up it was me and my brother, so my mom would always say he was her favorite son and I was her favorite daughter lol. But it was pretty obvious that my brother was the favored child. Even my friends and husband noticed. I have a great relationship with my parents, but it was very frustrating growing up that they expected the moon from me and nothing from my brother (he could literally do whatever he wanted and gets away with everything), but in a way that’s what made me who I am now. So it turned out ok 🙂
Post # 48
My mom’s only, I’m her favorite. My dad has two, I’m the favorite.
I have a favorite cat.
Post # 49
Yeah we have one of those situations in my family. My sister is the “golden child” and I am the “scapegoat”. Unfortunately, it’s a fairly common problem that can occur in families that have one or both parents suffering from NPD… That said, I don’t feel that I’m the victim, it just is what it is. I try not to take it personally and once in a while it’s tough but hey – we don’t choose our families and I’d still keep em if we could because well, they’re still family. Coming to terms with our family dynamic and what to expect (and not to expect – like change) has been incredibly beneficial for my own well being though!
Post # 50
craigslistgirl: I’m both parents favorite because I haven’t been the trainwreck child. My brother is a trainwreck, and continues to make poor choices. I’m fairly easy. My one “oops” moment was moving to NYC to a school I didn’t really want to, and quitting 3/4 of the way through the first semester. I was just so homesick and my grad program had oversold itself. So yeah, I came home and it was kind of a pricey hiccup, but that’s it in terms of life mistakes.
Plus, I’m not an asshole to our mother.
Post # 51
I don’t buy for one second that parents don’t have favorites. I think any parent who says they don’t it lying. And before anyone jumps my sh*t, I don’t think love = favorite. I fully believe that parents love their kids equally but that doesn’t meant one isn’t the favorite.
In my house it was less about my parents having favorites (at least displaying them to us) and more about our relatives having favorites. Don’t get me wrong, my brother is certainly the favorite with our mom, and dad is pretty neutral.
My brother is/was the favorite with both sets of grandparents, especially our maternal grandmother. However, I was the favorite with our aunt (who had no kids). We have literally joked about it our entire lives…to the point where when we bring it up even they giggle about it and no one even tries to deny it. 🙂
Post # 52
My parents say they don’t have a favorite child and I know that they don’t so I’m relieved. I hope I can learn from them in the future when I have my children