Are you the first of your friends to get engaged/married?

posted 5 years ago in 20 Something
  • poll: Are you the first of your friends to get engaged/married
    First to get engaged,and first/will be first to get married. : (354 votes)
    46 %
    First to get engaged, but not first/will not be first to get married. : (73 votes)
    10 %
    Not the first to get engaged, but first/will be first to get married. : (35 votes)
    5 %
    Not the first to get engaged, and not the first/will not be first to get married. : (305 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 3
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    4099 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    FH will be the first of his friends to get married.. I don’t have many friends, but my sister was married before me.. I am 28, FH will be 26 when we marry

    Post # 4
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    1880 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I was 24 when I got engaged and will be 26 when I get married. Of my close friend group I am the first for both, but if you extend it out to distant acquaintances I am the first to get engaged but not the first to get married. Some people got engaged/married all last year. My fiance is 35 and will pretty much be the last of his friends to get married.

    Post # 5
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    11752 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m the first of my close friends to get engaged/married and I’m 26.  Most of the people I’ve gone to school with aren’t yet married either…maybe 10%?  

    Post # 6
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    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    We will be the third of both my friends and my fiancé’s friends. Oh and we are 25. 

    Post # 7
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    523 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I am the first engaged of my close friends im 21 my Fiance is 22 and he is not the first he was the best man in his friends wedding this past December. Ill probably be the first to get married amongst my friends

    Post # 8
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    3092 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We’re late 20’s, I’ll be 27 when we marry and Fiance will have just turned 28. 

    So, we are most certainly the first out of FI’s friends (and there’s a lot of them!!)  We are nowhere near the first amongst my friends who are all either married, married and divorced, married with kids (some 2), divorced with kids etc.

    Post # 9
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    3053 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Out of my FRIENDS yes, I’ll be the first engaged & probably the first married though that’s 2 years away so someone could get married before I do. Out of my family, on my mom’s side, I’m the last in my generation of cousins & my siblings because I’m the baby of the family but on my dad’s side, I’ll be right in the middle

    Post # 10
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    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    No

    Post # 11
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    3277 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m 20, FH is 21. I’m the first of my immediate close friends to get engaged/married but a few people from our class of 60 graduates have gotten married and had kids. 

    Post # 12
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    74 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m 22 and my fiance is 23 (we’re only about 6 months apart). I will still be 22 when we get married and I’m the first out of my friends to do so. Our families are very happy for us…we had been dating for 5 years, so they saw it coming.

    Post # 13
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    333 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    i find this interesting to read, and wonder if there’s any correlation between the average age to get married and career field/geographic location etc.

    i’m 25, and am the first of my close friends to get engaged/married. fiance is 29 and has one close married friend. in our field/social circle, my age is considered quite young, and his age probably average. i predict a few of my friends will get married within the next few years though.

    Post # 14
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    663 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - EDD 06/12/2016

    @LostInWonderland:  is was 19 when I got engaged, he was 21. we will be 21 and 23 when we get married next summer. I am not the first of my friends to get engaged but will be married first. My Fiance is the first off his friends to be engaged.

    Post # 15
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    453 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Out of my close friends I grew up with, yes. There’s one girl I was friendly with in school who got married right after graduation and started a family, and another girl who has a child.

    Out of my current social circle, most people I’m friends with were both engaged and married earlier in life than I was. And most of them had children around my age, too.

    Post # 16
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    96 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Well Fiance and I fall into two categories.

    In our cultural/family group we are amongst the last to get engaged and married.

    Amongst our social group we are the first to do both.

    Both groups are equally important to us, and both have opposite beliefs. Our cultural group wonders why we didn’t do it both younger and sooner (well for one we didn’t even know each other at the age our cultural group expects marriage – late teens. Secondly, we didn’t want to get married six months after meeting). We are happy to have met mid twenties and waited three years to get engaged (we will be married just after four years together).

    Our social group wonders why we settled down in our mid-twenties, and why we don’t wait until our thirties to get married (some of our social group even wonder why we are bothering to get married at all).

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