(Closed) Are you the first of your friends to get engaged/married?

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
  • poll: Are you the first of your friends to get engaged/married

    First to get engaged,and first/will be first to get married.

    First to get engaged, but not first/will not be first to get married.

    Not the first to get engaged, but first/will be first to get married.

    Not the first to get engaged, and not the first/will not be first to get married.

  • Post # 47
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I will be the third of my close friends to get married and one of my other close friends just got engaged. Most people I know from high school (in a small rural area) are married and have kids already. Basically none of my friends from college are engaged or married, just the two before us who had been dating their boyfriends since freshman year and got married at 24-25. We are 27 and 28 and have been together for 5 years.

    Even though we aren’t first I sort of feel like we are, so few of my friends have any experience with the whole process.

    Post # 48
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I’m 19, FI’s 20. We’re getting married in two years. My older brother should also be getting married around the same time, but he’s seven years older so there is a bit of a difference.

    Post # 49
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    513 posts
    Busy bee

    I am the first of my friends to get engaged at 23, will be 25 when we get married. At 31, SO is the last of his friends to get engaged/married. 🙂

     

    The reaction has been positive for the most part. Someone who I don’t really consider a friend but hangs out in our group is really jealous and was badgering her on/off BF/FWB for a ring as soon as she saw mine.

    Post # 50
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    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Muhlhauser Barn

    I’m 28 & somehow I’m still going to be the first of my close friends to get engaged & married. Most of my friends are in long term relationships/living with their SO, but none of us wanted to get married until we had our life established (college, grad school, good job, good benefits, car, & house) & we want our SOs to have their sh*t together too… I don’t think any of us thought we would be having our 10 year high school reunion without having a husband to accompany us!

    Post # 51
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    480 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    I’m 21, turning 22 soon, and Fiance is 26, soon to be 27. We got engaged when I was 20, and he was 25. We were the first out of our friends to get engaged, and I think we might be the first to be married. I know a few people from high school who have got engaged and/or married, but most of my friends aren’t apart from one of my close friends.

    When we got engaged all of our close friends and family were really happy and their reactions were positive. Fiance and I had been dating for 4 years when he proposed, so everyone knew it was serious and that it would happen. There have been a few people who have said things about me being young, and that I should explore the world first (meaning I should sleep with other guys- FI’s the only man I’ve been with) but I ignore those people.

    I’ll be about 24, and Fiance will be about 29 when we get married. Our engagements super long! But we’re both studying our Bachelors at the moment and will be for this year and next year.

     

    Post # 52
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    My FH and I were both 20 when he proposed in September and we will both be 22 when we get married in May 2014. We haven’t even graudated college yet so we’re the first of our close friends to get engaged and married. There is one other couple at our church that will be getting married the month before us and a couple at school that got engaged in December and will be getting married the summer after us. All of my bridesmaids are currently single, so it may be a while before I actually get to be a bridesmaid! At least I avoided the ‘always a bridesmaid, never a bride’ problem. =)

    Post # 53
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    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m 28 & the last to get married out of my best group of friends.  Now they are all having babies, while I’m trying to plan a wedding… let’s just say my bachelorette party is probably not going to be as wild as the ones I went to in my early to mid twenties.

    Post # 54
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    First to get engaged, wedding isn’t for another year though, so who knows, someone could sneak in and get married first 🙂 I’ll be 26 when we get married, we’ve been together since I was 18. It will be our eight year anniversary in July. My closest friends are either not in long-term relationships or not thinking about marriage until they’re closer to 30 (not that I’m a mind-reader, that’s just what I’ve assumed from conversations, but you never know). I’ve been with my partner the longest of all of us, so I guess it makes sense I’d get married first. Out of my family in our generation, I’m about average in regards to the age I’m getting married. My cousin was about 25 or 26 when her and her husband got married, and my brother about the same I think.

    Post # 55
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    449 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m 20 and Fiance is 22. Will be that way on the wedding day too. (I won’t turn 21 until 2 weeks later). Of my close friends, I’m the first to be engaged/married.I know/used to be friends with a girl who is getting married before me though. FI’s best man is already married,  so I guess he’s second. Everyone has been really happy for us. The only negative comment I got was from a girl I barwly know at work. 

    Post # 56
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    322 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Well, on my side yes! I’m the first of my circle of friends (close and extended) to get married. I have a few lovely aquaintances who are married, and some not super close sorority sisters, but we’re the first of my immediate circle to take the plunge!

    We’re third in FI’s circle though – he was Best Man in his friend’s wedding last summer, and we have another of his friend’s weddings in April, so not quite first on that front but close!

    There’s been a lot of engagements this year though, so we have a bunch of weddings coming up over the next few months. So exciting!!

    Post # 57
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    196 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Second to be engaged and married. I’m 23, he is 26; we’ve been together for 6.5 years. Our friends got married first, they had also been together for a few years.

    Post # 58
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    722 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m 23, Fiance is 27, we are the first in our goup to get engaged/married but we’re the 3rd out of 4 couples regarding whose been together the longest

    Post # 59
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    1349 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2019

    Last to get engaged and the last to get married. All of my close friends are at least engaged, and they will all be married before I will be. I am 22, and my SO is 21.

    I try not to think about it really, because I know my time is coming very soon, but it can be hard sometimes, haha.

    Post # 60
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    219 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Garden outside our church

    I marked the second option, but that might be misleading–I was the first of my friends to be engaged and the LAST to be married–but this is separated by 11 years and is two different fiancés! (And sorry for a 30-something messing with your poll, I noticed the category after I voted.)

    Post # 61
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    1067 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’m like the third out of four of us.

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