(Closed) Are you treating both sides equally?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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5766 posts
Bee Keeper

Wow. That’s a lot of juggling. We didn’t do anything seperately and let the families choose how they participated (or not).

One Rehearsal Dinner and almost everyone stayed in the same hotels…Out of Town bags for all. One of the Groomsmen delivered them in the morning to the odd hotel.

Post # 4
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752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’ve approached them differently as in inviting certain folks from one side but not the other.  We invited ALL of his family but only some of mine because mine is huge.

For those that are included, we are conducting events together.  Even though there is a language barrier, cultural barriers, etc, we are joining the two families by us marrying.  I want them to acknowledge each other and recognize that we each have different families with needs. 

I also want each family to recognize that we are now one unit…we are a married couple.  So when mom asks me to join the family for vacation, it means he is included too!!

We’ve really had to reign in his family and try to get them to respect the fact that they can’t invite randoms as we havent been able to include my huge family. 

Post # 6
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620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Maybe the easiest thing to do with you Out of Town bags for his family is just to hand them to his mother and let her give them to everyone since I’m sure she knows where they are staying. If she gets upset about that then just tell her that you don’t know where everyone on their side is.

I think its fine to do everything seperatly if that is what is practical for the 2 families or if they don’t get along well. 

Post # 8
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Wow that is alot of events to do them all at different time, and divided by families. I think its a little odd but if it works for you guys then more power to you!! I think you should do Out of Town bags for your family and leave it up to him if he wants to do some for his. He addressed his invites he can also make his Out of Town bags.. Just keep making everything seperate I guess..

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